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15) Starting Over
The post reflects on personal experiences of childhood trauma and healing, highlighting the significance of supportive relationships, like a caring teacher during difficult times, and memorable family trips. It addresses themes of grief, resilience, and the challenges of navigating societal expectations while coping with loss and navigating adolescence. Continue reading
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14) Aftermath
After the author’s father’s suicide due to schizophrenia, their family faced overwhelming grief and societal stigma surrounding mental illness. The author took on responsibilities to support their mother and younger siblings while coping with their own numbness and confusion. The birth of a new sister brought moments of joy amidst their sorrow, fostering a deeper… Continue reading
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Intersex Variations
The article explores intersex variations and highlights the inadequacy of available information about intersex populations. It critiques scientific biases that marginalize their experiences and suggests reframing terminology to promote understanding. The author emphasizes the importance of recognizing intersex identities, advocating for validation, love, and the normalization of variations in human genetics. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 8) Life Keeps Lifing
The author reflects on their struggle with health issues amid family challenges, including upcoming MRIs to investigate a potential Cerebral Spinal Fluid Leak and Multiple Sclerosis. They confront overwhelming responsibilities, balancing personal needs, and the demands of caring for family members undergoing surgeries, all while managing their condition’s impact on daily life. Continue reading
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13) School
The narrative follows a student’s challenging journey through elementary school, marked by struggles with social acceptance, weight issues, and coping with mental health after their father’s suicide. They navigate difficult relationships with peers and teachers, ultimately grappling with feelings of isolation, confusion, and loss amid attempts for a normal school experience. Continue reading
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We Have To RISE
Our waiting And Tolerating Leaves room for the Hating Continue reading
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12) Inappropriate
Social anxiety and unique experience combine to create an explosive birthday with unintended consequences. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 7) Did Not See This Coming
The visit to Dr. Handjob revealed mixed news regarding health concerns. While he initially ruled out a CSF leak, he suggested other possible diagnoses: Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, Cerebral Spinal Fluid Leak, and Multiple Sclerosis. Diagnostic tests will clarify the situation, leaving uncertainty about the outcomes but maintaining a sense of humor. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 6) ICYMI
The post hints at a future discussion on a relevant topic, inviting readers to contribute knowledge on its source. It includes a variety of hashtags related to autism, self-diagnosis, and personal struggles in communication and social skills, suggesting a focus on understanding neurodiversity and related challenges. Continue reading
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11) Dad
The author reflects on their fragmented relationship with their biological father and the subsequent grief of losing their stepfather. Memories reveal a complex family dynamic filled with love, regret, and longing for connection. Despite challenges, the impact of both father figures highlights the desire for understanding and acceptance amid profound loss. Continue reading
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10) *Adult Supervision Required (TW) Part Two –
The author describes sexual abuse from their childhood. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 5) YES Foods
YES Foods are foods that stabilize and heal the body. Finding these involves research and experimentation. The author favors the Atkins Induction diet for better health, avoiding processed foods, sugars, and certain vegetables. They plan gradual dietary changes, focusing on cooking methods like Sunrise, Salads, Soups, and Stirfries for variety and nutrients. Continue reading
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9) Adult Supervision Required (TW)
The author adjusts to life in Indiana on a sharp learning curve. Continue reading
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8) What’s Abuse?
The post explores the complex and culturally nuanced definitions of abuse, highlighting practices such as child circumcision and finger cutting within specific tribes. It questions societal norms that normalize harmful behaviors and reflects on personal accountability. The author emphasizes the need for honest self-examination regarding actions that may cause harm to others. Continue reading
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7) New Scripts
The narrative reflects on a childhood shaped by rigid family dynamics and expectations, particularly towards maternal roles. The author recounts the contrast between their mother’s lively past and the oppressive environment created by their grandmother. Moving to Indiana signifies a turning point, offering glimpses of newfound freedom and self-discovery amid evolving family scripts. Continue reading
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