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84) Matthew
The post reflects on the impact of Matthew Shepard’s murder on the author, who feels deeply connected to their identity as a bisexual witch in Wyoming. It highlights the pervasive bigotry encountered, despite some community members claiming to support “live and let live.” The author expresses determination to fight for equality and honor Matthew’s legacy,… Continue reading
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11) Dad – Revisited
The author reflects on their fragmented relationship with their biological father and the subsequent grief of losing their stepfather. Memories reveal a complex family dynamic filled with love, regret, and longing for connection. Despite challenges, the impact of both father figures highlights the desire for understanding and acceptance amid profound loss. Continue reading
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10) *Adult Supervision Required (TW) Part Two – Revisited
The author describes sexual abuse from their childhood. Continue reading
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40) S & M
The writer reflects on their challenging relationship with their step-grandparent in-laws, who were critical and judgmental, particularly towards the writer’s mother. Observing the dynamics during visits reveals the author’s mother’s struggles with conformity and criticism, highlighting themes of family power, expectation, and toxic behavior, especially during mourning after their father’s death. Continue reading
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39) Runaway Part Two
The adventure continues, until it all ends. Continue reading
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38) Runaway Part 1
The author makes a break for it, escaping the control of home, for whatever the world would present. Continue reading
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7) New Scripts – Revisited
The narrative reflects on a childhood shaped by rigid family dynamics and expectations, particularly towards maternal roles. The author recounts the contrast between their mother’s lively past and the oppressive environment created by their grandmother. Moving to Indiana signifies a turning point, offering glimpses of newfound freedom and self-discovery amid evolving family scripts. Continue reading
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37) That One Time I Snuck Out
The author reflects on their high school choir experience, where singing provided comfort and connection. They describe a close friendship with Mr. E, a rebellious peer, sharing dreams and secrets during secret visits. A risky late-night venture ultimately leads to panic and Mr. E’s sudden disappearance, leaving unresolved feelings behind. Continue reading
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67) Perfect Storm
The author recounts being questioned by the police, and punished by their mother. A plan is hatched to leave town. Continue reading
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5) I Wanna Play
The post “I Wanna Play” by Protyus A. Gendher reflects on the author’s experiences with isolation and societal exclusion throughout childhood and adulthood. Through evocative poetry, the author expresses longing for acceptance and understanding while critiquing the arbitrary social rules that dictate belonging. Ultimately, they seek to redefine the game rather than conform to it. Continue reading
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66) Just a Little Mental Break
The author reflects on their challenging transition to a new home while coping with disabilities and past trauma. Inspired by a Netflix documentary, they confront buried memories of childhood abuse and the complexities of their experiences. The upcoming posts will delve deeper into their narrative, highlighting systemic violence and societal issues. Continue reading
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34) My Best Friend
The author reflects on their best friend, a metaphor for unhealthy relationships with food, particularly sweets. Childhood experiences of emotional comfort from candy contrast sharply with societal and familial pressures, which led to weight gain and shame. The bond with “Bestie” symbolizes addiction and the struggle for self-acceptance amidst these challenges. Continue reading
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65) Asking For Help
The narrator recounts the trauma of asking for help in a system where mandatory reporting revictimizes those needing help. Continue reading
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3) My Cult of Origin
The author explores the concept of “normal” as defined by family upbringing and experiences, using The Cult of the Ego to detail their childhood in a Colorado family shaped by strong patriarchal figures and specific behavioral expectations. The narrative highlights the impact of familial dynamics, traditions, and the importance of mentorship, alongside elements of affection,… Continue reading
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33) Man Hating
In the 1990s, gender dynamics were marked by a struggle between men asserting dominance and women fighting for recognition. Popular media reflected this tension, while feminism emerged as a counternarrative. Personal experiences showcased deep-seated frustrations with sexism, highlighting the emotional toll and societal expectations placed on women during that era. Continue reading
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