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3) My Cult of Origin
The author explores the concept of “normal” as defined by family upbringing and experiences, using The Cult of the Ego to detail their childhood in a Colorado family shaped by strong patriarchal figures and specific behavioral expectations. The narrative highlights the impact of familial dynamics, traditions, and the importance of mentorship, alongside elements of affection,… Continue reading
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31) Mom’s Mistake
The author reflects on their relationship with their mother, their place in the family, and how they coped. Continue reading
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29) Sisters Part Two
The author reflects on the challenging experience of caring for younger sisters, feeling the absence of their mother. Bath time transforms from joy to a struggle, marked by fear and harsh discipline influenced by the mother’s expectations. The narrator grapples with feelings of inadequacy and learns harmful lessons on parenting. Continue reading
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16) Junior High
The author reflects on their challenging experience in junior high, marked by a lack of family support and feelings of isolation. As their family became distant, the author faced bullying and ridicule at school. Despite moments of achievement, like performing in a musical, they struggled to find acceptance and belonging among peers. Continue reading
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9) Adult Supervision Required (TW) – Revisited
The author adjusts to life in Indiana on a sharp learning curve. Continue reading
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22) Mom
The narrative recounts the author’s complicated relationship with their mother following their father’s suicide. It depicts their mother’s struggles while raising her children amid grief, her strong personality, unique habits, and joys, such as cooking and gardening. Over time, her bitterness and distance grew, reflecting deep emotional turmoil. Continue reading
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