Protyus A. Gendher
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Family

The poem “Family” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the pain and alienation felt within a dysfunctional family. It reflects on the façade of love and support while revealing the torment of gaslighting and the pressure to conform. Ultimately, the speaker recognizes the impact of this toxicity on their own child and struggles with the need… Continue reading
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Disposable

The poem “Disposable” by Protyus A. Gendher reflects the pain of feeling welcomed only to be reminded of one’s outsider status. The author expresses the hurt of false kindness from those who, once boundaries are drawn, reveal that their affection is conditional, leaving the speaker feeling alone and undervalued. Continue reading
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24) It’s Ok

The content explores the complexities of grief through a reflective lens. It emphasizes that it’s acceptable to experience various emotions during mourning, highlighting the notion that one can feel both okay and not okay simultaneously. The author encourages self-acceptance and underscores the importance of personal healing journeys. Continue reading
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