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Abstinence
Abstinence by Protyus A. Gendher Abstinence Abstinence Abstinence Abstinence I read this shit and none of it makes sense Because nobody I know is doing this I’m pretty sure most “girls” want to see a penis But in my gendered reality This lesson, this teacher, this culture would make a monster out of me For failing to be someone controlled Someone who didn’t Continue reading
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Abortion
This piece takes a deep dive into the caveats of reproductive rights. Continue reading
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Thicker Skin
In “Thicker Skin,” Protyus A. Gendher explores the emotional struggle between vulnerability and self-protection. The speaker questions the need to toughen their heart while desiring genuine connection and self-expression. They grapple with the fear of rejection and the effects of hiding their true self, ultimately seeking safety in sharing their art and identity. Continue reading
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Drag Therapy
“Drag Therapy” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the journey of self-acceptance and empowerment through drag performance. It addresses confronting personal trauma, societal expectations, and reclaiming identity. The work emphasizes the liberation found in vulnerability, expressing emotions, and the transformative power of art in confronting and celebrating one’s true self. Continue reading
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Don’t Call Me Miss
The poem “Boi” by Protyus A. Gendher explores themes of identity, societal expectations, and self-acceptance. It expresses the struggle of fitting into predefined roles while encouraging authenticity and the recognition of one’s worth. The speaker emphasizes that individuals are valid and valuable just as they are, despite external pressures. Continue reading
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Closet Doors
Closet Doors explores concepts of safety and identity Continue reading
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Before I Knew I Was Trans
Before I Knew I Was Trans by Protyus A. Gendher Before I Knew I Was Trans Before I knew I was trans I sucked at being a girl I sucked at learning all of the prescribed rules I was force-fed in this world. I sucked at keeping my knees together wearing the skirt that they Continue reading
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Zebra Files 21) Prep Is a Four-Letter Word Meaning “Work”
The author shares their journey of implementing lifestyle and meal planning changes, acknowledging the challenges faced due to physical limitations. They emphasize the importance of preparation and adaptability while discussing their weekly meal plan, focusing on easy, repetitive recipes. The author hopes their experiences will inspire others without imposing judgments. Continue reading
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30) Public Shaming
Public shaming in educational settings has severe detrimental effects on children’s identity and mental health. It fosters fear, resentment, and low self-esteem, and reinforces negative behaviors such as bullying. A nurturing environment, free from humiliation, is critical for fostering growth, vulnerability, and overall wellbeing in children facing diverse challenges. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 18) Understanding Where I’m Coming From
The author shares poetry reflecting on personal health struggles, including mental health, ADHD, and obesity. The poem describes a transformative experience with mental anguish, contemplating death before choosing life. The semicolon symbolizes resilience, representing a continuation of the author’s story despite hardships. The work emphasizes overcoming despair and embracing a renewed existence. Continue reading
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29) Sisters Part Two
The author reflects on the challenging experience of caring for younger sisters, feeling the absence of their mother. Bath time transforms from joy to a struggle, marked by fear and harsh discipline influenced by the mother’s expectations. The narrator grapples with feelings of inadequacy and learns harmful lessons on parenting. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 17) Trying To Hit A Moving Target
The writer compares managing health challenges to eating a whole elephant, emphasizing ongoing struggles with pain, medical tests, and difficult lifestyle choices. They face guilt over limitations and are exploring dietary changes to alleviate symptoms. Despite setbacks, they remain committed to seeking treatment and improving their well-being while acknowledging the complexities involved. Continue reading
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28) Sisters
The author reflects on their complex relationships with younger sisters, shaped significantly by the loss of their father. Sister A, often feeling neglected, developed a distrustful personality, while Sister B became the author’s cherished companion. The narrative explores family dynamics, caregiving responsibilities, and the lasting impact of grief on sibling connections. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 16) While We Wait
The speaker is facing a month-long wait for a neurologist referral and additional delays for a geneticist’s diagnosis. Pending treatments include physical therapy, acupuncture, therapy, massage, chiropractic care, and potential pain injections. They also share a link to an external healing resource. Continue reading
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27) Autism
The author reflects on their journey with autism and ADHD, emphasizing the struggles of misdiagnosis and societal expectations. They recount experiences of isolation, misunderstanding, and the challenges of conformity in a rigid educational system. The narrative highlights the need for better recognition of autism, particularly among girls and non-binary individuals. Continue reading
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