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I Was Magic
The poem “I Was Magic” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the dynamics of a relationship marked by jealousy and overshadowed individuality. The speaker reflects on how their partner initially admired their uniqueness but later demands to be the center of attention, leading to the speaker’s gradual loss of self-worth and sparkle. Continue reading
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Heartbreak and Hoofbeats
Heartbreak and Hoofbeats by Protyus A. Gendher Heartbreak and HoofbeatsProfessionals are trained to unsee me Even when they’re looking for things unseen They can’t or won’t or don’t look deep Even when I spread it all out before their eyes Tying pieces together like an episode of CSI Flimsy red string connecting the bits of the puzzle But they listen like… Continue reading
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Hands Tied
Hands Tied by Protyus A. Gendher Hands Tied Hands Tied There’s a commotion outside And my hands are tied Piercing the night Screams of rage and fright They’re fighting again Could this be the end? Could this be the fight Someone doesn’t survive? I’ve been in those fights Before in my life So, I don’t have to know them To know what’s inside Both of them sound abusive, Because abuse… Continue reading
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Gumption
In “Gumption,” Protyus A. Gendher explores themes of identity, individuality, and resistance against societal expectations. The speaker rejects commodification and challenges perceptions that reduce a person to mere consumption, asserting their unique voice and worth. They confront the hypocrisy and superficiality of judgments from others, embracing their authenticity. Continue reading
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Going Numb
Reflections of 2020 Continue reading
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Giving the Light
The poem by Protyus A. Gendher explores the concept of “Light Giving,” comparing it to various forms of nurturing, such as mothering, grandmothering, and godmothering. As a light giver, or traditional surrogate, Protyus offers a unique perspective. They Emphasize unconditional love, guidance, and support, while highlighting the beauty of diverse experiences. Ultimately, it portrays light… Continue reading
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Getting Out
Getting Out by Protyus A. Gendher Getting Out Beware when person chooses themself It is a harbinger of change The very first indication That nothing will stay the same The slightest shift inside the soul That makes them matter within Like a force of nature finally released Flooding through the skin Once the epitome of sacrifice A selfless giving waste Discovered has a right to life Now… Continue reading
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Expert
The poem by Protyus A. Gendher emphasizes personal identity and self-awareness. It advocates for individual empowerment, asserting that only one knows their true self, dreams, and experiences. The author expresses a desire for mutual sharing of identities, inviting others to share who they are alongside their own self-affirmation. Continue reading
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Due Process
Due Process by Protyus A. Gendher Due Process Constitutional amendment number 5 Meant to keep us alive When accused of a crime Until we have our time In the courts, until then blind Justice But fuck this System where the accused are executed on sight Ignoring our rights Cops know they don’t have to abide The know which lives don’t really have rights And there’s no end… Continue reading
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Daddy
Daddy by Protyus A. Gendher Daddy Some people only grace our lives for a moment Present for a second, then off they go again I was 8 years old when I met my dad My family finally looking like the ones other kids had I thought when he married Mom, we’d keep him forever Not knowing our lives can change like… Continue reading
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Culture Shock
The poem “Culture Shock” by Protyus A. Gendher emphasizes the importance of overcoming cultural differences to foster understanding and learning. It highlights the need to set aside egos and perspectives that dismiss others, advocating for unity and appreciation of diversity rather than division, which stifles personal and collective growth. Continue reading
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Crisis
The piece “Crisis” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the complexities of mental health, emphasizing its prevalence and societal challenges. It highlights the struggle individuals face with mental illness and the inadequacies of support systems that often punish rather than assist. The work calls for understanding and better resources to genuinely help those in need. Continue reading
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Control
In “Control” by Protyus A. Gendher, the author critiques societal norms surrounding reproduction and the bodily autonomy of people with uteruses. The piece highlights the struggles and frustrations faced by those seeking reproductive choices, emphasizing the need for personal control over one’s body without suffering and judgment, challenging existing laws and gender binaries. Continue reading
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Community
The poem “Community” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the dual nature of community as both a source of healing and a breeding ground for social issues. It emphasizes the importance of connection, support, and shared dreams while acknowledging the challenges posed by greed and social disease. Ultimately, it calls for active participation in fostering healing… Continue reading
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Brave
The poem by Protyus A. Gendher challenges perceptions of bravery and resilience, asserting that an individual’s authenticity should not require validation or glorification of pain. It critiques the tendency to label personal struggles with concepts like “survivor,” urging others to reconsider the implications of such terms on one’s unique experience. Continue reading
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Relational Field Theory has evolved from an intuitive concept to a structured framework comparable to complex systems in various sciences. It emphasizes observable patterns in relationships and community dynamics. By categorizing key terms into functional clusters, the theory moves towards precise operational definitions, facilitating further study and application in understanding relational systems. - Pluriology – The Pluriological Lexicon — The Vocabulary of a New Discipline
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Relational Field Theory (RFT) emerged at a crucial time when artificial intelligence began influencing human relational dynamics. It addresses the need for a coherent framework to navigate complexities like emotional capacity and relational safety in a digitally interconnected world. RFT facilitates understanding and connection between humans and AI. - Relational Field Theory -Why People Trade Prime Authenticity for Binary Control
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Hau is an influential force beyond the spirit of the gift, activating relational fields that expand identities and connections. The strongest hau arises from unfulfilled gifts, which create lasting connections and open portals to deeper relational contexts. This exploration reveals how hau binds individuals to people and places not yet experienced, enhancing communal identity. - Relational Field Theory – What ongoing adverse pressure does to the shadow form
Relational Field Theory illustrates how ongoing adverse pressure transforms an individual’s brilliance into a survival strategy, eventually leading to the emergence of a shadow form. This shadow, perceived as identity, is a response to unsustainable demands. It distorts self-perception and limits access to one’s full potential, but can revert when the pressure alleviates. - Relational Field Theory -The 80/20 Rule of Healthy Mentorship
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The author reflects on their lifelong feelings of misalignment and sensitivity, stemming from early trauma. Initially perceived as flaws, these traits are now recognized as vital adaptations that foster resilience and unique perspectives. The shift in understanding highlights the importance of embracing one’s experiences, suggesting that those who feel “too much” may instead be invaluable features shaped by their challenges. - Relational Field Theory – The Greatest Gift He Never Gave Me
The author reflects on the profound impact of Charlie Love, an influential figure in their life, who represented permanence and connection. Although he never gifted a promised pineapple plant, this unfulfilled promise became an enduring symbol of their relationship. The real gift was the shared experiences and stories that continued to resonate after his passing. - Relational Field Theory – Autistic Honesty
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