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58) Third Wheel
This post recounts the amusing experience of a mischievous group of students, which leads to an unexpected reunion between Mr. E, and a former crush named Reticence. The narrator plays matchmaker between them, facilitating a nostalgic date at Dairy Queen, which sparks old feelings leading to a sweet, albeit brief, romance. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 17 – Week 11 – Self Soothing
Week Eleven focuses on emotional regulation, emphasizing self-soothing techniques to manage emotional responses. Journaling about past emotional reactions helps identify personal triggers and responses. The exercise encourages finding effective calming strategies, practicing them, and sharing with family to enhance collective emotional well-being. Engaging in role-plays illustrates successful self-soothing outcomes. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 32) Getting My Butt Kicked By Everything
The author reflects on their challenges managing physical pain and limitations, particularly during physical therapy. Despite planning and efforts, they struggle with pain that affects their work and daily activities. Yet, they experience moments of improvement and hope. Upcoming dental surgery and participation in a pain support group offer potential paths forward. Continue reading
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57) Western Wear
The narrative recounts the author’s quest for independence through their first job at a western wear store amid a strained relationship with their mother. They find excitement in their romance with a truck driver, which provides a sense of validation. However, their job ends abruptly due to a wrongful accusation, leaving them heartbroken and disheartened. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 16 – Week 10 – Give and Fast
In Week Ten of the DBT tools program, participants learn about GIVE (for relationship effectiveness) and FAST (for self-respect effectiveness). GIVE emphasizes gentleness, interest, validation, and ease in interactions, while FAST focuses on fairness, genuine apologies, adherence to values, and truthfulness. Role-playing these techniques helps in practicing a compassionate approach. Continue reading
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56) Home Alone
The narrative recounts a young sibling’s tumultuous experience when their older brother returns home from the Navy after a year. His arrival, marked by shame and visible trauma, quickly deteriorates, revealing substance abuse issues. Tensions rise as the brother’s erratic behavior escalates, leaving the family in fear and uncertainty, impacting their home life profoundly. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 15 – Week 9 – Love Bombing
The Toxicity Toolkit addresses toxic behaviors that affect relationships, arising from various life experiences. It acknowledges that everyone displays toxic traits and aims to provide exercises for families to combat toxicity and cultivate healthier communication. The toolkit emphasizes recognizing toxicity, employing dialectical behavioral therapy, and fostering a positive environment for growth. Continue reading
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55) Grandma’s Grooming
The author recounts double-edged memories of visiting Grandma before school in the 90s, where they received old episodes of a soap opera and Rush Limbaugh’s show. Limbaugh’s provocative rhetoric influenced family dynamics and the author’s understanding of femininity, as they engaged in performing politically charged SCRIPTs that impacted their identity. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 14 – The Third Month
In the third month, you’ll address toxic positivity through Love Bombing in Week 9, learn DBT tools GIVE and FAST in Week 10, and concentrate on emotional regulation in Week 11. The creator encourages feedback on any harmful content found on the site. Continue reading
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I Was Magic
The poem “I Was Magic” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the dynamics of a relationship marked by jealousy and overshadowed individuality. The speaker reflects on how their partner initially admired their uniqueness but later demands to be the center of attention, leading to the speaker’s gradual loss of self-worth and sparkle. Continue reading
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54) Human Trafficking Part Four
The content discusses the pervasive issue of human trafficking within various societal systems in America, such as adoption, surrogacy, and the military. It highlights personal experiences and the detrimental effects on individuals and communities, urging readers to recognize these connections to promote healing and potential escape from these cycles of exploitation. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 13 – Week 8 – Dear Man
Week Eight of the Interpersonal Effectiveness series focuses on the DEAR MAN technique from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). This method is designed to help individuals express needs respectfully. It includes describing situations, expressing feelings, asserting oneself, reinforcing good behavior, staying mindful, appearing composed, and negotiating effectively. Practice is essential for success. Continue reading
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53) Human Trafficking Part Three
The post examines the deep-rooted issues of human trafficking in American history, specifically through the lens of Thomas Jefferson’s sordid legacy of slavery and exploitation. It connects historical practices with contemporary cultural phenomena, arguing that societal structures continue to perpetuate abuse and commodification, particularly affecting marginalized individuals and reinforcing systemic oppression. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 12 – Week 7 – The F* It Bucket
In Week Seven, the focus is on “Letting Things Go” through the exercise of the F* it Bucket. Families create a container to collect worries they cannot control, crumpling or folding notes before discarding them to reduce mental clutter and stress. This promotes present engagement and healthy coping strategies. Continue reading
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52) Human Trafficking Part Two
The content explores the cultural and religious codification of patriarchy and the resulting impact on women across various societies, including Islam, Buddhism, and Shinto. It highlights the role of women in these systems, the prevalence of human trafficking and domestic violence, and critiques the social structures that perpetuate inequality and control. Continue reading
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