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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 9 – Gentle Gaslighter
The post discusses the negative impacts of various dismissive communication styles, such as dismissing, equalizing, minimizing, and matching, that hinder effective listening in intimate relationships. It emphasizes valuing individual experiences over generalized responses and encourages adopting a “Listening to Receive” approach to foster deeper connections. Continue reading
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65) Asking For Help
The narrator recounts the trauma of asking for help in a system where mandatory reporting revictimizes those needing help. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 40) What Are The Odds?
The article explores the grim realities faced by those with rare conditions like EDS, highlighting the difficulty in obtaining diagnoses and treatment within the flawed American healthcare system. It emphasizes the societal isolation and pain endured by patients who struggle to be seen and heard, often dismissed by medical professionals. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 8 – Practice
The “Toxicity Toolkit” promotes gradual skill development and encourages families to repeat weekly exercises if needed. It emphasizes understanding and internalizing lessons over merely completing tasks. Continuous practice is essential for success, and audio versions are available on Spotify and Anchor for further exploration. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 40) Moving Forward
The author reflects on their journey while living with ADHD and a connective tissue disorder. They share updates about their health struggles, disability application processes, and recent life changes, including leaving their job. They express gratitude for returning to blogging and mention their involvement in supporting others with similar challenges. Continue reading
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64) Emotional Ambush
The author reflects on their struggle with emotional ambushes, feeling unworthy of their pain and ashamed of their emotional responses. They highlight the deep impact these ambushes can have on children, shaping adult behaviors and fears. The post emphasizes the importance of breaking this cycle for healthier emotional development. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 7 – Gentle Honesty
The post contrasts Gentle Honesty and Brutal Honesty, highlighting their differing intentions and impacts. Gentle Honesty fosters collaboration and healing, encouraging growth, while Brutal Honesty often serves personal validation at the expense of others. It emphasizes the importance of honesty in recognizing toxic behaviors and its consequences in interpersonal relationships. Choose wisely. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 39) Nope
The author shares their struggles with a physical therapy program, experiencing pain and setbacks despite effort. They emphasize the difficulty of radical acceptance and the societal pressures surrounding therapy. The post includes resources for others facing similar challenges, highlighting the need for understanding and support in managing chronic pain. Continue reading
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63) It All Fell Apart
The author recounts tense family dynamics that lead to them leaving home. Here home, school, and work converge to compel the authors risky behaviors. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 6 – Bystanders
The content discusses the roles of bystanders in toxic situations, distinguishing between Enablers and Inhibitors. Enablers perpetuate toxicity by encouraging harmful behavior, while Inhibitors challenge it and promote healthier interactions. The text emphasizes the importance of awareness and intervention to break the cycle of toxic behavior and uphold family values. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 38) Welcome Back
The author reflects on their holiday season, expressing hope and compassion despite challenges. They share their return from a break, discussing their health goals and experiences with physical therapy. A daily exercise regimen was developed, aiming to enhance mobility and strength, while navigating the unpredictability of living with Ehler’s Danlos syndrome. Continue reading
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62) Taking a Dip in a Really Big Church
The narrator faced rejection from roommates and felt abandoned by a friend. Despite emotional turmoil, moving into Brocade’s home revitalized their spirit, allowing for personal growth and joy through new activities and belonging at a supportive church. However, pressure from family led to their return home, disrupting progress and freedom. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 5 – Check Yourself
The content emphasizes the importance of self-reflection in conflict situations. It encourages individuals to examine their own behaviors and contributions to conflicts, rather than solely identifying others as the source. By fostering accountability and openness, individuals can reduce conflicts and create a more honest and approachable environment in relationships. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 37) Accessing Care
The author shares their journey of navigating healthcare access challenges while managing health issues. They reduced work hours to alleviate symptoms but lost private insurance, complicating care access. Despite obtaining an MRI revealing spinal stenosis, delays in referrals and appointments threaten their ability to return to work by January. The struggle continues. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 4 – Barriers
The content discusses the author’s journey to understand and address toxic family dynamics. Reflecting on personal experiences, they emphasize the importance of having tools to create healthier environments. The “Toxicity Toolkit” aims to promote balance and autonomy within families, advocating for gentle persistence in overcoming resistance to change and emphasizing self-improvement. Continue reading
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