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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 8 – Practice
The “Toxicity Toolkit” promotes gradual skill development and encourages families to repeat weekly exercises if needed. It emphasizes understanding and internalizing lessons over merely completing tasks. Continuous practice is essential for success, and audio versions are available on Spotify and Anchor for further exploration. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 7 – Gentle Honesty
The post contrasts Gentle Honesty and Brutal Honesty, highlighting their differing intentions and impacts. Gentle Honesty fosters collaboration and healing, encouraging growth, while Brutal Honesty often serves personal validation at the expense of others. It emphasizes the importance of honesty in recognizing toxic behaviors and its consequences in interpersonal relationships. Choose wisely. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 39) Nope
The author shares their struggles with a physical therapy program, experiencing pain and setbacks despite effort. They emphasize the difficulty of radical acceptance and the societal pressures surrounding therapy. The post includes resources for others facing similar challenges, highlighting the need for understanding and support in managing chronic pain. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 5 – Check Yourself
The content emphasizes the importance of self-reflection in conflict situations. It encourages individuals to examine their own behaviors and contributions to conflicts, rather than solely identifying others as the source. By fostering accountability and openness, individuals can reduce conflicts and create a more honest and approachable environment in relationships. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 37) Accessing Care
The author shares their journey of navigating healthcare access challenges while managing health issues. They reduced work hours to alleviate symptoms but lost private insurance, complicating care access. Despite obtaining an MRI revealing spinal stenosis, delays in referrals and appointments threaten their ability to return to work by January. The struggle continues. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 3 – Journaling
Daily journaling is a valuable practice that helps in self-reflection and understanding emotions. It should be used not only during assigned exercises but consistently, recording feelings, experiences, and insights. Various methods are encouraged, such as writing, audio recordings, or video journaling, allowing personal preference to guide the process. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 2 – Private Reactions
The content emphasizes the importance of having private space to process conflicts and behaviors. It suggests that disengaging socially helps individuals think clearly without the pressure of saving face. Writing letters can aid in expressing feelings when direct communication is challenging, promoting understanding and reducing defensiveness. Continue reading
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61) Two Lesbians and a Maintenance Guy
The narrative recounts a young person’s challenging journey of self-discovery while working at a fabric store. After befriending two lesbians and facing difficulties at home, they seek refuge with a maintenance guy, leading to a complicated relationship. Struggles with autonomy and unexpected situations culminate in a peculiar but humorous incident involving handcuffs and a police… Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Breakout Topics 4 – Holiday Preparation
The content outlines a 14-day toolkit for preparing for a non-toxic Thanksgiving, focusing on identifying toxic behaviors from past gatherings and establishing ground rules. It encourages reflection, role-playing responses to problematic situations, and fostering a supportive network among attendees. The ultimate goal is to create a safe, enjoyable holiday experience for all. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 36) It’s All Connected
The author expresses frustration with the interconnectedness of insurance systems after losing coverage, preventing access to necessary medications and treatments. Facing bureaucratic obstacles, they question the impact of their work hours on pain levels and quality of life while navigating the intimidating process of submitting disability paperwork. Resilience is tested amid these challenges. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 35) Pain Group
The author attended a Pain Support Group for the first time, prompted by feelings of mild suicidality, depression, and anxiety. While reflecting on their struggles, they shared emotions and experiences with others, finding some usefulness in the conversation. Although physically exhausting, they’re open to the potential benefits of the group. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 34) Hypermobility Workout
The post introduces a daily routine for managing hypermobility, particularly focusing on lower-body workouts available in two parts on YouTube. While not medical advice, the author hopes to raise awareness about the effort required for hypermobile individuals to function and encourages others to consider their own bodily needs. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 32) Getting My Butt Kicked By Everything
The author reflects on their challenges managing physical pain and limitations, particularly during physical therapy. Despite planning and efforts, they struggle with pain that affects their work and daily activities. Yet, they experience moments of improvement and hope. Upcoming dental surgery and participation in a pain support group offer potential paths forward. Continue reading
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42) Bonobo Cycle Breakers
The post discusses the significance of Bonobos and other non-aggressive cultures in understanding dysregulation within society. It highlights how these groups demonstrate mechanisms for regulating aggression and power dynamics, contrasting them with societies that favor power for its own sake. Ultimately, it advocates for examining and learning from these cycle-breaking models. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 31) Physical Therapy
The author shares their experiences with physical therapy, highlighting the challenges and discomfort encountered while addressing hip, back, and shoulder issues. Despite initial soreness and excitement about progress, they face setbacks including increased shoulder pain and joint issues. The journey emphasizes the complexity of rehabilitation and the importance of careful exercise management. Continue reading
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