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42) Bonobo Cycle Breakers
The post discusses the significance of Bonobos and other non-aggressive cultures in understanding dysregulation within society. It highlights how these groups demonstrate mechanisms for regulating aggression and power dynamics, contrasting them with societies that favor power for its own sake. Ultimately, it advocates for examining and learning from these cycle-breaking models. Continue reading
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41) The Machine
The post discusses “The Cult of the Ego” and its relation to social dynamics and institutional racism, as depicted in A&E’s documentary series “Houses of Horror.” It emphasizes how dysregulated individuals can dominate social structures, perpetuating conformity and white supremacy, while also critiquing current DEI practices undermined by existing power systems. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 31) Physical Therapy
The author shares their experiences with physical therapy, highlighting the challenges and discomfort encountered while addressing hip, back, and shoulder issues. Despite initial soreness and excitement about progress, they face setbacks including increased shoulder pain and joint issues. The journey emphasizes the complexity of rehabilitation and the importance of careful exercise management. Continue reading
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40) S & M
The writer reflects on their challenging relationship with their step-grandparent in-laws, who were critical and judgmental, particularly towards the writer’s mother. Observing the dynamics during visits reveals the author’s mother’s struggles with conformity and criticism, highlighting themes of family power, expectation, and toxic behavior, especially during mourning after their father’s death. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 30) Failing At Everything, Everywhere, All At Once
The author shares a challenging life update, highlighting difficulties in managing health amidst a supportive family and job. Despite attempts to follow a strict diet and start physical therapy, pain persists, complicating daily life and work. Financial strains from insurance issues and personal struggles exacerbate feelings of inadequacy and overwhelm. Continue reading
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39) Runaway Part Two
The adventure continues, until it all ends. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 29) Hyperfixation- My Best Friend And Worst Enemy
The author discusses the challenges of hyperfixation related to ADHD and Autism, detailing its impact on their daily life and struggles with hypermobility syndrome. Despite learning to manage hyperfixation with maturity, they still find it difficult to detach from tasks. The narrative reflects on personal growth and coping strategies. Continue reading
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38) Runaway Part 1
The author makes a break for it, escaping the control of home, for whatever the world would present. Continue reading
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37) That One Time I Snuck Out
The author reflects on their high school choir experience, where singing provided comfort and connection. They describe a close friendship with Mr. E, a rebellious peer, sharing dreams and secrets during secret visits. A risky late-night venture ultimately leads to panic and Mr. E’s sudden disappearance, leaving unresolved feelings behind. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 27) Boiling Chicken
The author reflects on the underrated value of boiled chicken, particularly in making flavorful chicken soup. Boiling is essential for creating a tasty outcome, likened to a necessary lifestyle change that may seem unpleasant initially. Trusting the process leads to rewarding results, turning boiled chicken into a beloved meal, “Chicken Carcass.” Continue reading
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36) My Childhood In Pictures
The post shares a nostalgic glimpse into the author’s childhood through a collection of photos, starting from a young age and including family members and pets. It reflects on hair struggles, school memories, and a specific International Day celebration. The author invites readers to enjoy this visual journey into their past. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 26) The Power of a Shower
The post discusses the author’s personal journey through caffeine withdrawal, emphasizing the importance of self-care. They describe acknowledging their struggles, countering cravings, and nurturing themselves with nutritious food and meaningful conversations. The acronym “Please Master” highlights self-care’s role in emotional regulation, fostering healthier patterns, and promoting overall well-being. Continue reading
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35) The Panopticon
The content discusses the concept of the Panopticon and its implications in everyday life, reflecting on how surveillance influences behavior. It shares personal anecdotes of growing up in a community where individuals constantly monitored each other, leading to anxiety and a sense of inescapability. The narrative highlights the psychological effects of such a surveillance culture. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 26) Backwards is also Backwards
The author expresses the struggle of managing their health system challenges related to hypermobility, including denied medical referrals and insurance issues. Despite making progress, they are dealing with discouragement, caffeine withdrawal, and the pressure of adult responsibilities. They embrace their current difficulties while maintaining hope for future improvements. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 25) Sometimes Forward is Backward
The author details their experience of caffeine withdrawal after switching from coffee and soda to water. Despite engaging in healthy activities like yoga, they feel nauseous and irritable. They emphasize the importance of radical acceptance in managing discomfort and acknowledge that while withdrawal is brutal, it is temporary and part of their lifestyle change. Continue reading
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