Protyus A. Gendher
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 11 – Taking Their Side
The content discusses conflict resolution techniques, emphasizing the importance of taking the other person’s side during disputes. It highlights the human need for validation and suggests pausing to understand their perspective. Additionally, it references Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills (DEAR MAN, GIVE, and FAST) to aid in effective communication while navigating conflicts. Continue reading
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68) Anywhere But Here
The author reflects on their lack of financial literacy education in high school, highlighting experiences in home economics that focused on practical skills rather than budgeting or managing finances. They recount their journey to freedom after leaving a controlling home life, where they had to learn independence and self-worth while feeling that financial knowledge was… Continue reading
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Zebra files 46) Treatment Follow Up
The author provides an update on their experience with hyaluronic acid knee injections. After the third round, they report significant pain relief and improved mobility, particularly in relation to their hips. While pain persists, the injections have eased daily activities and reduced overall discomfort. They express gratitude for support during the treatment process. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 45) Treatment Review- Lumbar Nerve Ablation
The author shares their painful experience with lumbar nerve ablation, detailing the diagnostic rounds and procedures. After two painful rounds of injections with minimal relief, the author concluded the diagnostic tests were unsuccessful. They are now considering a spinal cord stimulator, but express fear and skepticism about further pain management options. Continue reading
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Charlie Kirk was a Great Big Jerk
The post reflects on Charlie Kirk’s contribution to society. Continue reading
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67) Perfect Storm
The author recounts being questioned by the police, and punished by their mother. A plan is hatched to leave town. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – An Evening with ADHD – 9.10.25
The author struggles with ADHD during a restless night, reflecting on the overwhelming flow of thoughts and tasks. Despite an important appointment looming, they find themselves distracted by social media instead of being productive. The piece concludes with a humorous acknowledgment that sleep may be the most pressing need. Continue reading
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AI Conspiracy Theory – 9.10.25
Protyus explores AI Continue reading
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Zebra Files 44) Treatment Review-Hyaluronic Acid
The author discusses their experience with Hyaluronic Acid injections for knee pain relief due to the ineligibility for steroid and stem cell treatments. Despite the painful procedure, initial results show significant improvement in pain levels and knee functionality. The injections, required every 3-6 months, are covered by Medicaid, offering a hopeful solution. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 42) Assessment
The author describes their journey of seeking formal assessments for Autism and ADHD due to exhibiting related traits without a diagnosis. Despite multiple attempts including consultations with doctors and a mental health group, they face barriers in accessing evaluations, ultimately frustrated but determined to continue pursuing diagnosis options. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 10 – Resilience
Resilience isn’t that complicated. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – A Sea of Dark Pink Flags 9.9.25 TW
The author reflects on recognizing harmful behaviors as a person with autism and an empath, particularly in the context of their child’s experiences with an abusive teacher. They compile a list of red flags that children notice in adults, highlighting emotional inconsistency, lack of accountability, and intimidation, which reflect broader societal issues. Continue reading
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66) Just a Little Mental Break
The author reflects on their challenging transition to a new home while coping with disabilities and past trauma. Inspired by a Netflix documentary, they confront buried memories of childhood abuse and the complexities of their experiences. The upcoming posts will delve deeper into their narrative, highlighting systemic violence and societal issues. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 41) Hoofbeats and Heartbreak
“Hoofbeats and Heartbreak” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the challenges of living with often overlooked conditions that medical professionals dismiss. Through metaphors of hoofbeats representing common diagnoses and zebras symbolizing rare diseases, the piece critiques healthcare’s failures to recognize and validate patients’ pain. The author emphasizes the necessity of acknowledgment and support for all forms… Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 9 – Gentle Gaslighter
The post discusses the negative impacts of various dismissive communication styles, such as dismissing, equalizing, minimizing, and matching, that hinder effective listening in intimate relationships. It emphasizes valuing individual experiences over generalized responses and encourages adopting a “Listening to Receive” approach to foster deeper connections. Continue reading
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