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Toxicity Toolkit – Breakout Topics 4 – Holiday Preparation
The content outlines a 14-day toolkit for preparing for a non-toxic Thanksgiving, focusing on identifying toxic behaviors from past gatherings and establishing ground rules. It encourages reflection, role-playing responses to problematic situations, and fostering a supportive network among attendees. The ultimate goal is to create a safe, enjoyable holiday experience for all. Continue reading
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Daily Writing Prompt 9.4.2025
This daily prompt reveals that the concept of a grudge carries a certain amount of gaslighting. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 36) It’s All Connected
The author expresses frustration with the interconnectedness of insurance systems after losing coverage, preventing access to necessary medications and treatments. Facing bureaucratic obstacles, they question the impact of their work hours on pain levels and quality of life while navigating the intimidating process of submitting disability paperwork. Resilience is tested amid these challenges. Continue reading
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Narcissistic Hoax
The post critiques the absence of men’s voices in advocating for women’s rights and accountability in society amid persistent issues like human trafficking and narcissism. It challenges men to actively support change, express outrage, and protect vulnerable individuals, emphasizing the need for societal and systemic reform while recognizing the courage of survivors who speak out. Continue reading
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60) Getting Witchy With It
The author shares their journey into Wicca, influenced by a Wiccan brother and an inspiring dream. Discovering a local witchy bookstore, they embraced its community and valuable resources, particularly the book “Helping Yourself with White Witchcraft.” Wicca nurtured their autonomy, creativity, and self-discovery during their challenging teen years. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – Far From Home
Daily Prompt – Far From Home Today’s prompt asks us to describe the farthest we’ve ever roamed from home. I’ve spent a significant amount of this blog trying to ferret that out. Honestly, I think that for most of my life, I’ve been imagining home, but haven’t ever really had one of my own. A Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Breakout Topics 3 – Shame Resilience
The content explores Brené Brown’s concepts of Shame Resilience and Vulnerability, emphasizing their transformative significance in overcoming feelings of shame. It discusses how shame operates, its gendered perceptions, and the importance of processing vulnerability for healing and authenticity. The author highlights personal experiences and the role of therapy in fostering resilience. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 35) Pain Group
The author attended a Pain Support Group for the first time, prompted by feelings of mild suicidality, depression, and anxiety. While reflecting on their struggles, they shared emotions and experiences with others, finding some usefulness in the conversation. Although physically exhausting, they’re open to the potential benefits of the group. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Breakout Topics 2 – Logical Fallacies
The author reflects on personal growth stemming from exposure to logical fallacies during college, highlighting their role in overcoming a toxic upbringing. Understanding these reasoning flaws has enabled the author to detach from damaging interactions, particularly ad hominem attacks. The upcoming posts will delve into various logical fallacies and their implications. Continue reading
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I Can’t Believe He’s Dead
The author mourns the loss of Graham Greene, highlighting the rarity of authentic minority representation in American media. They express admiration for Greene’s diverse roles, especially in “Dances with Wolves” and “Maverick,” and encourage readers to explore more of his filmography. The post emphasizes the importance of healing and understanding. Continue reading
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The author reflects on their ideal home, emphasizing safety, emotional support, and respect over aesthetics and design. After experiencing homelessness, they prioritize a nurturing environment filled with love and acceptance, where family members can thrive without negative influences. They express renewed hope for achieving this vision amidst family restructuring. Continue reading
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59) T Was Easier to Love than Me
The narrative reflects on a cherished relationship with a cousin’s girlfriend who became an integral part of the family. Her bond with the narrator and their mother brought joy, laughter, and genuine connection, contrasting with the narrator’s longing for a similar closeness with their own mother. The story highlights themes of love and familial ties. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 18 – Week 12 – Family Journal Exercise
In Week Twelve’s family journal exercise, participants review past entries to identify patterns and changes in relationships. Families gather to share reflections on detoxifying their home, discussing challenges, surprises, and improvements. They then decide whether to continue practicing or advance to Level 2, celebrating their efforts throughout the process. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 34) Hypermobility Workout
The post introduces a daily routine for managing hypermobility, particularly focusing on lower-body workouts available in two parts on YouTube. While not medical advice, the author hopes to raise awareness about the effort required for hypermobile individuals to function and encourages others to consider their own bodily needs. Continue reading
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58) Third Wheel
This post recounts the amusing experience of a mischievous group of students, which leads to an unexpected reunion between Mr. E, and a former crush named Reticence. The narrator plays matchmaker between them, facilitating a nostalgic date at Dairy Queen, which sparks old feelings leading to a sweet, albeit brief, romance. Continue reading
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