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68) Anywhere But Here
The author reflects on their lack of financial literacy education in high school, highlighting experiences in home economics that focused on practical skills rather than budgeting or managing finances. They recount their journey to freedom after leaving a controlling home life, where they had to learn independence and self-worth while feeling that financial knowledge was… Continue reading
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Zebra files 46) Treatment Follow Up
The author provides an update on their experience with hyaluronic acid knee injections. After the third round, they report significant pain relief and improved mobility, particularly in relation to their hips. While pain persists, the injections have eased daily activities and reduced overall discomfort. They express gratitude for support during the treatment process. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 45) Treatment Review- Lumbar Nerve Ablation
The author shares their painful experience with lumbar nerve ablation, detailing the diagnostic rounds and procedures. After two painful rounds of injections with minimal relief, the author concluded the diagnostic tests were unsuccessful. They are now considering a spinal cord stimulator, but express fear and skepticism about further pain management options. Continue reading
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67) Perfect Storm
The author recounts being questioned by the police, and punished by their mother. A plan is hatched to leave town. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 44) Treatment Review-Hyaluronic Acid
The author discusses their experience with Hyaluronic Acid injections for knee pain relief due to the ineligibility for steroid and stem cell treatments. Despite the painful procedure, initial results show significant improvement in pain levels and knee functionality. The injections, required every 3-6 months, are covered by Medicaid, offering a hopeful solution. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 42) Assessment
The author describes their journey of seeking formal assessments for Autism and ADHD due to exhibiting related traits without a diagnosis. Despite multiple attempts including consultations with doctors and a mental health group, they face barriers in accessing evaluations, ultimately frustrated but determined to continue pursuing diagnosis options. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 10 – Resilience
Resilience isn’t that complicated. Continue reading
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66) Just a Little Mental Break
The author reflects on their challenging transition to a new home while coping with disabilities and past trauma. Inspired by a Netflix documentary, they confront buried memories of childhood abuse and the complexities of their experiences. The upcoming posts will delve deeper into their narrative, highlighting systemic violence and societal issues. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 41) Hoofbeats and Heartbreak
“Hoofbeats and Heartbreak” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the challenges of living with often overlooked conditions that medical professionals dismiss. Through metaphors of hoofbeats representing common diagnoses and zebras symbolizing rare diseases, the piece critiques healthcare’s failures to recognize and validate patients’ pain. The author emphasizes the necessity of acknowledgment and support for all forms… Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 9 – Gentle Gaslighter
The post discusses the negative impacts of various dismissive communication styles, such as dismissing, equalizing, minimizing, and matching, that hinder effective listening in intimate relationships. It emphasizes valuing individual experiences over generalized responses and encourages adopting a “Listening to Receive” approach to foster deeper connections. Continue reading
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65) Asking For Help
The narrator recounts the trauma of asking for help in a system where mandatory reporting revictimizes those needing help. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 40) What Are The Odds?
The article explores the grim realities faced by those with rare conditions like EDS, highlighting the difficulty in obtaining diagnoses and treatment within the flawed American healthcare system. It emphasizes the societal isolation and pain endured by patients who struggle to be seen and heard, often dismissed by medical professionals. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 8 – Practice
The “Toxicity Toolkit” promotes gradual skill development and encourages families to repeat weekly exercises if needed. It emphasizes understanding and internalizing lessons over merely completing tasks. Continuous practice is essential for success, and audio versions are available on Spotify and Anchor for further exploration. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 40) Moving Forward
The author reflects on their journey while living with ADHD and a connective tissue disorder. They share updates about their health struggles, disability application processes, and recent life changes, including leaving their job. They express gratitude for returning to blogging and mention their involvement in supporting others with similar challenges. Continue reading
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64) Emotional Ambush
The author reflects on their struggle with emotional ambushes, feeling unworthy of their pain and ashamed of their emotional responses. They highlight the deep impact these ambushes can have on children, shaping adult behaviors and fears. The post emphasizes the importance of breaking this cycle for healthier emotional development. Continue reading
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