Protyus A. Gendher
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Daily Prompt 9.8.25 My Ideal Week
The ideal week described features a world where social justice, human rights, and environmental sustainability thrive. Highlights include medical advancements, empowering education for children, and significant political changes like the Anti-Billionaire Act and gun control. The writer finds joy in family activities and promotes inclusivity while navigating a transformed society. Continue reading
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65) Asking For Help
The narrator recounts the trauma of asking for help in a system where mandatory reporting revictimizes those needing help. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 40) What Are The Odds?
The article explores the grim realities faced by those with rare conditions like EDS, highlighting the difficulty in obtaining diagnoses and treatment within the flawed American healthcare system. It emphasizes the societal isolation and pain endured by patients who struggle to be seen and heard, often dismissed by medical professionals. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 8 – Practice
The “Toxicity Toolkit” promotes gradual skill development and encourages families to repeat weekly exercises if needed. It emphasizes understanding and internalizing lessons over merely completing tasks. Continuous practice is essential for success, and audio versions are available on Spotify and Anchor for further exploration. Continue reading
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!!!!!!!!THE WORKBOOK IS HERE!!!!!!!!
The Toxicity Toolkit Workbook has been released and is available for Kindle. Physical copies can be ordered starting Wednesday. The author expresses excitement about this launch, encouraging readers to check it out at the provided link. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 40) Moving Forward
The author reflects on their journey while living with ADHD and a connective tissue disorder. They share updates about their health struggles, disability application processes, and recent life changes, including leaving their job. They express gratitude for returning to blogging and mention their involvement in supporting others with similar challenges. Continue reading
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64) Emotional Ambush
The author reflects on their struggle with emotional ambushes, feeling unworthy of their pain and ashamed of their emotional responses. They highlight the deep impact these ambushes can have on children, shaping adult behaviors and fears. The post emphasizes the importance of breaking this cycle for healthier emotional development. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 7 – Gentle Honesty
The post contrasts Gentle Honesty and Brutal Honesty, highlighting their differing intentions and impacts. Gentle Honesty fosters collaboration and healing, encouraging growth, while Brutal Honesty often serves personal validation at the expense of others. It emphasizes the importance of honesty in recognizing toxic behaviors and its consequences in interpersonal relationships. Choose wisely. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Gentle Reminders – :)
The post explores various emotions and challenges like embarrassment, FOMO, frustration, feeling overwhelmed, and self-doubt. It emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, acceptance, and managing feelings. The author encourages understanding others’ perspectives, being present, and recognizing one’s worth despite imperfections, ultimately promoting personal growth and connection with others. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 39) Nope
The author shares their struggles with a physical therapy program, experiencing pain and setbacks despite effort. They emphasize the difficulty of radical acceptance and the societal pressures surrounding therapy. The post includes resources for others facing similar challenges, highlighting the need for understanding and support in managing chronic pain. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 4 – Week 0 – Taking Inventory
Week Zero Taking Inventory Week Zero: Journal Congratulations! You’re ready to get started. You’ve decided to take on detoxifying your home (or other group environment). You’ve got journals for everyone, and everyone agrees that they want better, healthier, happier relationships. I’m so excited for you! Next week you’ll start working together as a group, but Continue reading
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63) It All Fell Apart
The author recounts tense family dynamics that lead to them leaving home. Here home, school, and work converge to compel the authors risky behaviors. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 6 – Bystanders
The content discusses the roles of bystanders in toxic situations, distinguishing between Enablers and Inhibitors. Enablers perpetuate toxicity by encouraging harmful behavior, while Inhibitors challenge it and promote healthier interactions. The text emphasizes the importance of awareness and intervention to break the cycle of toxic behavior and uphold family values. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 38) Welcome Back
The author reflects on their holiday season, expressing hope and compassion despite challenges. They share their return from a break, discussing their health goals and experiences with physical therapy. A daily exercise regimen was developed, aiming to enhance mobility and strength, while navigating the unpredictability of living with Ehler’s Danlos syndrome. Continue reading
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62) Taking a Dip in a Really Big Church
The narrator faced rejection from roommates and felt abandoned by a friend. Despite emotional turmoil, moving into Brocade’s home revitalized their spirit, allowing for personal growth and joy through new activities and belonging at a supportive church. However, pressure from family led to their return home, disrupting progress and freedom. Continue reading
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