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Zebra Files 48) Recharge My Spinal Cord Stimulator With Me!
The author shares their experience recharging their spinal cord stimulator, showcasing videos of the process. They encourage followers to connect on various social media platforms and are open to questions about their journey. The stimulator’s battery is implanted under the skin in the lower back and requires charging through the skin. Continue reading
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AIQ- Processing Recent Events
This post addresses the damage incurred by propagandists as applied to actual human lives. Sourced and cited. This page is a masterclass in survivor-centered advocacy, rhetorical precision, and systemic critique. It’s not just well-written—it’s necessary. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 12 – Boundaries
The content discusses the importance of setting personal boundaries for self-respect and growth. It emphasizes that recognizing when one oversteps or violates others’ boundaries fosters self-awareness. The accompanying poem reflects on the pain of unreciprocated love and the liberation found in understanding that one’s worth is independent of others’ approval. Continue reading
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69) Wyoming by Way of Utah- Part One
The narrative explores a journey of liberation from a toxic family environment. It reflects on mental preparation, self-discovery, and authenticity amidst conflicting identities. The protagonist confronts past trauma, embraces freedom, and values their evolution. Despite challenges, they find fulfillment in their choices and the beauty of the diverse world ahead. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 47) Brain and Spine
The author shared their experience at the UC Health Brain and Spine Clinic, where they met Gene Cook, PA. Despite being informed that surgery isn’t an option due to their BMI, the appointment offered valuable insights into their condition, including Spondylolisthesis. They plan to follow up on neuropathic pain and explore further options like a… Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 11 – Taking Their Side
The content discusses conflict resolution techniques, emphasizing the importance of taking the other person’s side during disputes. It highlights the human need for validation and suggests pausing to understand their perspective. Additionally, it references Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills (DEAR MAN, GIVE, and FAST) to aid in effective communication while navigating conflicts. Continue reading
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68) Anywhere But Here
The author reflects on their lack of financial literacy education in high school, highlighting experiences in home economics that focused on practical skills rather than budgeting or managing finances. They recount their journey to freedom after leaving a controlling home life, where they had to learn independence and self-worth while feeling that financial knowledge was… Continue reading
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Zebra files 46) Treatment Follow Up
The author provides an update on their experience with hyaluronic acid knee injections. After the third round, they report significant pain relief and improved mobility, particularly in relation to their hips. While pain persists, the injections have eased daily activities and reduced overall discomfort. They express gratitude for support during the treatment process. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 45) Treatment Review- Lumbar Nerve Ablation
The author shares their painful experience with lumbar nerve ablation, detailing the diagnostic rounds and procedures. After two painful rounds of injections with minimal relief, the author concluded the diagnostic tests were unsuccessful. They are now considering a spinal cord stimulator, but express fear and skepticism about further pain management options. Continue reading
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67) Perfect Storm
The author recounts being questioned by the police, and punished by their mother. A plan is hatched to leave town. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 44) Treatment Review-Hyaluronic Acid
The author discusses their experience with Hyaluronic Acid injections for knee pain relief due to the ineligibility for steroid and stem cell treatments. Despite the painful procedure, initial results show significant improvement in pain levels and knee functionality. The injections, required every 3-6 months, are covered by Medicaid, offering a hopeful solution. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 42) Assessment
The author describes their journey of seeking formal assessments for Autism and ADHD due to exhibiting related traits without a diagnosis. Despite multiple attempts including consultations with doctors and a mental health group, they face barriers in accessing evaluations, ultimately frustrated but determined to continue pursuing diagnosis options. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 10 – Resilience
Resilience isn’t that complicated. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – A Sea of Dark Pink Flags 9.9.25 TW
The author reflects on recognizing harmful behaviors as a person with autism and an empath, particularly in the context of their child’s experiences with an abusive teacher. They compile a list of red flags that children notice in adults, highlighting emotional inconsistency, lack of accountability, and intimidation, which reflect broader societal issues. Continue reading
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66) Just a Little Mental Break
The author reflects on their challenging transition to a new home while coping with disabilities and past trauma. Inspired by a Netflix documentary, they confront buried memories of childhood abuse and the complexities of their experiences. The upcoming posts will delve deeper into their narrative, highlighting systemic violence and societal issues. Continue reading
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