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55) Grandma’s Grooming
The author recounts double-edged memories of visiting Grandma before school in the 90s, where they received old episodes of a soap opera and Rush Limbaugh’s show. Limbaugh’s provocative rhetoric influenced family dynamics and the author’s understanding of femininity, as they engaged in performing politically charged SCRIPTs that impacted their identity. Continue reading
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50) Paper Trail
The author’s mom discovers evidence of abuse, and blames and shames to make it go away. Continue reading
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19) Presidential Fitness Test
The Presidential Fitness Test, established in the 1950s to assess youth fitness in comparison to European peers, emphasized military-style performance. Over the years, it became associated with body shaming and emotional trauma for many, particularly those facing physical limitations. The test was abolished in 2013 after widespread criticism. Continue reading
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79) Reflections
The author explores the complexities of their childhood, grappling with feelings of self-loathing and the struggle for validation. They reflect on past traumas, relationships, and the internal conflict between acknowledging pain and minimizing it. Ultimately, they seek understanding of their worthiness and the necessity of self-love in their healing journey. Continue reading
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30) Public Shaming
Public shaming in educational settings has severe detrimental effects on children’s identity and mental health. It fosters fear, resentment, and low self-esteem, and reinforces negative behaviors such as bullying. A nurturing environment, free from humiliation, is critical for fostering growth, vulnerability, and overall wellbeing in children facing diverse challenges. Continue reading
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50) Paper Trail
The author’s mom discovers evidence of abuse, and blames and shames to make it go away. Continue reading
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55) Grandma’s Grooming
The author recounts double-edged memories of visiting Grandma before school in the 90s, where they received old episodes of a soap opera and Rush Limbaugh’s show. Limbaugh’s provocative rhetoric influenced family dynamics and the author’s understanding of femininity, as they engaged in performing politically charged SCRIPTs that impacted their identity. Continue reading
Conformity and Control, cult of the ego, cycle breaking, Erasing The Silence, grooming, Social Issues, Uncategorizedadvice, blame, bonding, communication, community, conformity, conservative, content warning, cult, cult of the ego, family, Free, gender, grandma, grooming, health, help, human worth, identity, ideology, indoctrination, journal, life, me too, no paywalls, orientation, outreach, personal truth, perspective, punishment, republican, resources, rush, rush limbaugh, script, script theory, self help, self improvement, shame, struggle, survivor, teenager, theory, therapy, trigger warning -
79) Reflections
The author explores the complexities of their childhood, grappling with feelings of self-loathing and the struggle for validation. They reflect on past traumas, relationships, and the internal conflict between acknowledging pain and minimizing it. Ultimately, they seek understanding of their worthiness and the necessity of self-love in their healing journey. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Breakout Topics 3 – Shame Resilience
The content explores Brené Brown’s concepts of Shame Resilience and Vulnerability, emphasizing their transformative significance in overcoming feelings of shame. It discusses how shame operates, its gendered perceptions, and the importance of processing vulnerability for healing and authenticity. The author highlights personal experiences and the role of therapy in fostering resilience. Continue reading
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55) Grandma’s Grooming
The author recounts double-edged memories of visiting Grandma before school in the 90s, where they received old episodes of a soap opera and Rush Limbaugh’s show. Limbaugh’s provocative rhetoric influenced family dynamics and the author’s understanding of femininity, as they engaged in performing politically charged SCRIPTs that impacted their identity. Continue reading
Conformity and Control, cult of the ego, cycle breaking, Erasing The Silence, grooming, Social Issues, Uncategorizedadvice, blame, bonding, communication, community, conformity, conservative, content warning, cult, cult of the ego, family, Free, gender, grandma, grooming, health, help, human worth, identity, ideology, indoctrination, journal, life, me too, no paywalls, orientation, outreach, personal truth, perspective, punishment, republican, resources, rush, rush limbaugh, script, script theory, self help, self improvement, shame, struggle, survivor, teenager, theory, therapy, trigger warning -
50) Paper Trail
The author’s mom discovers evidence of abuse, and blames and shames to make it go away. Continue reading
Conformity and Control, cult of the ego, cycle breaking, Erasing The Silence, grooming, Revictimization, Social Issues, Uncategorizedabuse, advice, belittling, blame, communication, community, content warning, cult of the ego, cycle breaking, cycles of abuse, evidence, family, Free, generational trauma, guilt, health, help, help hurts, journal, life, me too, no help, no paywalls, notes, outreach, paper, personal truth, perspective, resources, Revictimization, scared, script, script theory, self help, self improvement, sexuality, shame, siblings, struggle, survivor, therapy, trauma, trauma cycles, trigger warning, trouble -
30) Public Shaming
Public shaming in educational settings has severe detrimental effects on children’s identity and mental health. It fosters fear, resentment, and low self-esteem, and reinforces negative behaviors such as bullying. A nurturing environment, free from humiliation, is critical for fostering growth, vulnerability, and overall wellbeing in children facing diverse challenges. Continue reading
Conformity and Control, cult of the ego, cycle breaking, Erasing The Silence, grooming, Health and Healing, Social Issues, theory, Uncategorizedadministration, adolescence, advice, anthropology, autoethnography, brene brown, bullying, childhood, columbine, communication, community, content warning, counselors, cult of the ego, damage, damage control, family, Free, happy child, health, help, human improvement project, journal, learning, life, me too, Mental Health, no more, no paywalls, not on my watch, outreach, parenting, personal truth, perspective, principal, psychology, public school, public shaming, resources, safety, school, school shooter, self help, self improvement, shame, shame resilience, social science, sociology, stand with emma, struggle, super intendent, survivor, teachers, therapy, toxicity, toxicity toolkit, trigger warning, vulnerability, Wellness -
19) Presidential Fitness Test
The Presidential Fitness Test, established in the 1950s to assess youth fitness in comparison to European peers, emphasized military-style performance. Over the years, it became associated with body shaming and emotional trauma for many, particularly those facing physical limitations. The test was abolished in 2013 after widespread criticism. Continue reading
Conformity and Control, cult of the ego, cycle breaking, Erasing The Silence, grooming, Health and Healing, Poetry, Social Issues, theory, Uncategorized, Wealthcareabuse, advice, anthroplogy, anthropology, autoethnography, children, communication, community, comparison, content warning, cptsd, cycle, cycle breaker, cycle breaking, cycles of abuse, EDS, ehlers danlos, Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, eisenhower, family, fat, fitness, Free, government, gym, health, help, institutionalized trauma, journal, life, lifestyle, me too, Mental Health, mile run, no more, no paywalls, not on my watch, outreach, pain, personal truth, perspective, Presidential Function Test, psychology, ptsd, public shaming, pull ups, push ups, resources, rope climb, school, self help, self improvement, shame, sit ups, social science, sociology, structural violence, struggle, survivor, therapy, torture, trauma, trauma informed, trauma recovery, trigger warning, Zebra
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