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55) Grandma’s Grooming
The author recounts double-edged memories of visiting Grandma before school in the 90s, where they received old episodes of a soap opera and Rush Limbaugh’s show. Limbaugh’s provocative rhetoric influenced family dynamics and the author’s understanding of femininity, as they engaged in performing politically charged SCRIPTs that impacted their identity. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 14 – The Third Month
In the third month, you’ll address toxic positivity through Love Bombing in Week 9, learn DBT tools GIVE and FAST in Week 10, and concentrate on emotional regulation in Week 11. The creator encourages feedback on any harmful content found on the site. Continue reading
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I Was Magic
The poem “I Was Magic” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the dynamics of a relationship marked by jealousy and overshadowed individuality. The speaker reflects on how their partner initially admired their uniqueness but later demands to be the center of attention, leading to the speaker’s gradual loss of self-worth and sparkle. Continue reading
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54) Human Trafficking Part Four
The content discusses the pervasive issue of human trafficking within various societal systems in America, such as adoption, surrogacy, and the military. It highlights personal experiences and the detrimental effects on individuals and communities, urging readers to recognize these connections to promote healing and potential escape from these cycles of exploitation. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 13 – Week 8 – Dear Man
Week Eight of the Interpersonal Effectiveness series focuses on the DEAR MAN technique from Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT). This method is designed to help individuals express needs respectfully. It includes describing situations, expressing feelings, asserting oneself, reinforcing good behavior, staying mindful, appearing composed, and negotiating effectively. Practice is essential for success. Continue reading
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53) Human Trafficking Part Three
The post examines the deep-rooted issues of human trafficking in American history, specifically through the lens of Thomas Jefferson’s sordid legacy of slavery and exploitation. It connects historical practices with contemporary cultural phenomena, arguing that societal structures continue to perpetuate abuse and commodification, particularly affecting marginalized individuals and reinforcing systemic oppression. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 12 – Week 7 – The F* It Bucket
In Week Seven, the focus is on “Letting Things Go” through the exercise of the F* it Bucket. Families create a container to collect worries they cannot control, crumpling or folding notes before discarding them to reduce mental clutter and stress. This promotes present engagement and healthy coping strategies. Continue reading
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52) Human Trafficking Part Two
The content explores the cultural and religious codification of patriarchy and the resulting impact on women across various societies, including Islam, Buddhism, and Shinto. It highlights the role of women in these systems, the prevalence of human trafficking and domestic violence, and critiques the social structures that perpetuate inequality and control. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 11 – Week 6 – Collecting Spoons
Week Six focuses on self-care and the Spoon Theory by Christine Miserandino, which illustrates energy levels as “spoons.” Individuals with disabilities or burdens deplete their spoons faster. This week encourages reflecting on what drains or replenishes your energy, setting boundaries, and communicating with family about their spoon levels for healthier interactions. Continue reading
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51) Human Trafficking
Christian Marriage is Human Trafficking. I said what I said. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 10 – Week 5 – Checking In
In Week Five, participants reflect on their journal entries from the past month, assessing their honesty and emotional responses. They are encouraged to recognize changes in relationships and anticipate future growth. The focus remains on value-based interactions and fostering supportive habits, continuing to build upon learned insights and experiences. Continue reading
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50) Paper Trail
The author’s mom discovers evidence of abuse, and blames and shames to make it go away. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 9 – The Second Month
In the second month, participants engage in weekly exercises, journaling, and reflective analysis in week 5. Week 6 focuses on self-care and boundaries, while week 7 emphasizes letting go. Finally, week 8 introduces the DBT skill DEAR MAN for improved interpersonal effectiveness. Feedback for content concerns is welcomed. Continue reading
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49) Trying on Scripts
The author reflects on their experiences with a small, imaginative cult formed during adolescence, alongside friends K and R. They explored identity through shared fictional narratives and characters, blurring lines between reality and performance. Eventually, the author distanced from the group, recognizing the dangers involved, while R remained deeply attached to the fantasy. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 8 – Week 4 – Praise
In Week Four, the focus is on positive reinforcement, particularly praise, as a tool for promoting healthy behaviors in relationships. It emphasizes the importance of specificity in feedback and cautions against public praise to avoid manipulative tendencies. The exercise encourages private recognition of positive actions using genuine communication. Continue reading
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