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67) Perfect Storm
The author recounts being questioned by the police, and punished by their mother. A plan is hatched to leave town. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 44) Treatment Review-Hyaluronic Acid
The author discusses their experience with Hyaluronic Acid injections for knee pain relief due to the ineligibility for steroid and stem cell treatments. Despite the painful procedure, initial results show significant improvement in pain levels and knee functionality. The injections, required every 3-6 months, are covered by Medicaid, offering a hopeful solution. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 42) Assessment
The author describes their journey of seeking formal assessments for Autism and ADHD due to exhibiting related traits without a diagnosis. Despite multiple attempts including consultations with doctors and a mental health group, they face barriers in accessing evaluations, ultimately frustrated but determined to continue pursuing diagnosis options. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 10 – Resilience
Resilience isn’t that complicated. Continue reading
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66) Just a Little Mental Break
The author reflects on their challenging transition to a new home while coping with disabilities and past trauma. Inspired by a Netflix documentary, they confront buried memories of childhood abuse and the complexities of their experiences. The upcoming posts will delve deeper into their narrative, highlighting systemic violence and societal issues. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 41) Hoofbeats and Heartbreak
“Hoofbeats and Heartbreak” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the challenges of living with often overlooked conditions that medical professionals dismiss. Through metaphors of hoofbeats representing common diagnoses and zebras symbolizing rare diseases, the piece critiques healthcare’s failures to recognize and validate patients’ pain. The author emphasizes the necessity of acknowledgment and support for all forms… Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 9 – Gentle Gaslighter
The post discusses the negative impacts of various dismissive communication styles, such as dismissing, equalizing, minimizing, and matching, that hinder effective listening in intimate relationships. It emphasizes valuing individual experiences over generalized responses and encourages adopting a “Listening to Receive” approach to foster deeper connections. Continue reading
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65) Asking For Help
The narrator recounts the trauma of asking for help in a system where mandatory reporting revictimizes those needing help. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 40) What Are The Odds?
The article explores the grim realities faced by those with rare conditions like EDS, highlighting the difficulty in obtaining diagnoses and treatment within the flawed American healthcare system. It emphasizes the societal isolation and pain endured by patients who struggle to be seen and heard, often dismissed by medical professionals. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 8 – Practice
The “Toxicity Toolkit” promotes gradual skill development and encourages families to repeat weekly exercises if needed. It emphasizes understanding and internalizing lessons over merely completing tasks. Continuous practice is essential for success, and audio versions are available on Spotify and Anchor for further exploration. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 40) Moving Forward
The author reflects on their journey while living with ADHD and a connective tissue disorder. They share updates about their health struggles, disability application processes, and recent life changes, including leaving their job. They express gratitude for returning to blogging and mention their involvement in supporting others with similar challenges. Continue reading
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64) Emotional Ambush
The author reflects on their struggle with emotional ambushes, feeling unworthy of their pain and ashamed of their emotional responses. They highlight the deep impact these ambushes can have on children, shaping adult behaviors and fears. The post emphasizes the importance of breaking this cycle for healthier emotional development. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 7 – Gentle Honesty
The post contrasts Gentle Honesty and Brutal Honesty, highlighting their differing intentions and impacts. Gentle Honesty fosters collaboration and healing, encouraging growth, while Brutal Honesty often serves personal validation at the expense of others. It emphasizes the importance of honesty in recognizing toxic behaviors and its consequences in interpersonal relationships. Choose wisely. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 39) Nope
The author shares their struggles with a physical therapy program, experiencing pain and setbacks despite effort. They emphasize the difficulty of radical acceptance and the societal pressures surrounding therapy. The post includes resources for others facing similar challenges, highlighting the need for understanding and support in managing chronic pain. Continue reading
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63) It All Fell Apart
The author recounts tense family dynamics that lead to them leaving home. Here home, school, and work converge to compel the authors risky behaviors. Continue reading
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The post explores the concept of Relational Field Theory, emphasizing creation as a process rooted in presence and coherence. It highlights that creative growth stems from maintaining a relational stance amid mundane challenges, rather than seeking domination or frustration. Presence in such moments nurtures ecosystems, even within limiting circumstances. - Relational Field Theory – Creating Through Relation
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