autoethnography
-
Culture Shock
The poem “Culture Shock” by Protyus A. Gendher emphasizes the importance of overcoming cultural differences to foster understanding and learning. It highlights the need to set aside egos and perspectives that dismiss others, advocating for unity and appreciation of diversity rather than division, which stifles personal and collective growth. Continue reading
advice, ally, anthropology, art, autoethnography, bi, closet, communication, community, content warning, family, feminism, Free, gay, genderr, health, help, journal, lesbian, lgbt, lgbtq, life, me too, Mental Health, no paywalls, outreach, personal truth, perspective, Poetry, pride, psychology, resources, self help, self improvement, silence, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trans, trigger warning, writing -
Crisis
The piece “Crisis” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the complexities of mental health, emphasizing its prevalence and societal challenges. It highlights the struggle individuals face with mental illness and the inadequacies of support systems that often punish rather than assist. The work calls for understanding and better resources to genuinely help those in need. Continue reading
advice, ally, anthropology, art, autoethnography, bi, closet, communication, community, content warning, family, feminism, Free, gay, genderr, health, help, journal, lesbian, lgbt, lgbtq, life, me too, Mental Health, no paywalls, outreach, personal truth, perspective, Poetry, pride, psychology, resources, self help, self improvement, silence, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trans, trigger warning, writing -
Control
In “Control” by Protyus A. Gendher, the author critiques societal norms surrounding reproduction and the bodily autonomy of people with uteruses. The piece highlights the struggles and frustrations faced by those seeking reproductive choices, emphasizing the need for personal control over one’s body without suffering and judgment, challenging existing laws and gender binaries. Continue reading
advice, ally, anthropology, art, autoethnography, bi, closet, communication, community, content warning, family, feminism, Free, gay, genderr, health, help, journal, lesbian, lgbt, lgbtq, life, me too, Mental Health, no paywalls, outreach, personal truth, perspective, Poetry, pride, psychology, resources, self help, self improvement, silence, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trans, trigger warning, writing -
Community
The poem “Community” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the dual nature of community as both a source of healing and a breeding ground for social issues. It emphasizes the importance of connection, support, and shared dreams while acknowledging the challenges posed by greed and social disease. Ultimately, it calls for active participation in fostering healing… Continue reading
advice, ally, anthropology, art, autoethnography, bi, closet, communication, community, content warning, family, feminism, Free, gay, genderr, health, help, journal, lesbian, lgbt, lgbtq, life, me too, Mental Health, no paywalls, outreach, personal truth, perspective, Poetry, pride, psychology, resources, self help, self improvement, silence, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trans, trigger warning, writing -
Brave
The poem by Protyus A. Gendher challenges perceptions of bravery and resilience, asserting that an individual’s authenticity should not require validation or glorification of pain. It critiques the tendency to label personal struggles with concepts like “survivor,” urging others to reconsider the implications of such terms on one’s unique experience. Continue reading
advice, ally, anthropology, art, autoethnography, bi, closet, communication, community, content warning, family, feminism, Free, gay, genderr, health, help, journal, lesbian, lgbt, lgbtq, life, me too, Mental Health, no paywalls, outreach, personal truth, perspective, Poetry, pride, psychology, resources, self help, self improvement, silence, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trans, trigger warning, writing -
Anxiety
The poem “Anxiety” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the debilitating effects of stress and doubt in relationships. It expresses a desire for genuine connection without the burden of anxiety, emphasizing the need for love to flourish free of fear and uncertainty. Ultimately, it highlights the struggle of couples trapped in cycles of worry and misunderstanding. Continue reading
advice, ally, anthropology, art, autoethnography, bi, closet, communication, community, content warning, family, feminism, Free, gay, genderr, health, help, journal, lesbian, lgbt, lgbtq, life, me too, Mental Health, no paywalls, outreach, personal truth, perspective, Poetry, pride, psychology, resources, self help, self improvement, silence, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trans, trigger warning, writing -
Abstinence
Abstinence by Protyus A. Gendher Abstinence Abstinence Abstinence Abstinence I read this shit and none of it makes sense Because nobody I know is doing this I’m pretty sure most “girls” want to see a penis But in my gendered reality This lesson, this teacher, this culture would make a monster out of me For failing to be someone controlled Someone who didn’t Continue reading
abstinence, advice, ally, anthropology, art, autoethnography, bi, closet, communication, community, content warning, family, feminism, Free, gay, genderr, health, help, journal, lesbian, lgbt, lgbtq, life, me too, Mental Health, no paywalls, outreach, personal truth, perspective, Poetry, pride, psychology, relationships, resources, self help, self improvement, sex, sex ed, silence, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trans, trigger warning, writing -
Abortion
This piece takes a deep dive into the caveats of reproductive rights. Continue reading
abortion, abuse, advice, ally, anthropology, art, autoethnography, bi, closet, communication, community, content warning, family, feminism, Free, gay, health, help, journal, lesbian, lgbt, lgbtq, life, me too, Mental Health, no paywalls, outreach, personal truth, perspective, Poetry, pride, psychology, reproduction, resources, self help, self improvement, silence, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trans, trauma, trigger warning, writing -
Thicker Skin
In “Thicker Skin,” Protyus A. Gendher explores the emotional struggle between vulnerability and self-protection. The speaker questions the need to toughen their heart while desiring genuine connection and self-expression. They grapple with the fear of rejection and the effects of hiding their true self, ultimately seeking safety in sharing their art and identity. Continue reading
advice, ally, anthropology, art, autoethnography, bi, closet, communication, community, content warning, family, feminism, Free, gay, genderr, health, help, journal, lesbian, lgbt, lgbtq, life, me too, Mental Health, no paywalls, outreach, pain, personal truth, perspective, Poetry, pride, psychology, resources, self help, self improvement, silence, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trans, trauma, trigger warning, writing -
31) Mom’s Mistake
The author reflects on their relationship with their mother, their place in the family, and how they coped. Continue reading
Conformity and Control, cult of the ego, cycle breaking, Erasing The Silence, grooming, Social Issues, Uncategorizedabuse, accient, advice, anthropology, autoethnography, bastard, belonging, communication, community, conservative, content warning, coping, cult of the ego, cutting, cycle breaker, cycle breaking, family, family scapegoat syndrome, family science, family structure, fitting in, Free, growing up, health, help, journal, liberal, life, lifestyle, me too, Mental Health, mistake, mom, narratives, no paywalls, outreach, parenting, pecking order, personal truth, perspective, republican, resources, scapegoat, script theory, scripts, self help, self improvement, social science, stories, struggle, survivor, teens, therapy, trigger warning -
Drag Therapy
“Drag Therapy” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the journey of self-acceptance and empowerment through drag performance. It addresses confronting personal trauma, societal expectations, and reclaiming identity. The work emphasizes the liberation found in vulnerability, expressing emotions, and the transformative power of art in confronting and celebrating one’s true self. Continue reading
advice, ally, anthropology, art, autoethnography, bi, closet, communication, community, content warning, family, feminism, Free, gay, genderr, health, help, journal, lesbian, lgbt, lgbtq, life, me too, Mental Health, no paywalls, outreach, personal truth, perspective, Poetry, pride, psychology, resources, self help, self improvement, silence, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trans, trigger warning, writing -
Don’t Call Me Miss
The poem “Boi” by Protyus A. Gendher explores themes of identity, societal expectations, and self-acceptance. It expresses the struggle of fitting into predefined roles while encouraging authenticity and the recognition of one’s worth. The speaker emphasizes that individuals are valid and valuable just as they are, despite external pressures. Continue reading
advice, ally, anthropology, art, autoethnography, bi, closet, communication, community, content warning, family, feminism, Free, gay, genderr, health, help, journal, lesbian, lgbt, lgbtq, life, me too, Mental Health, no paywalls, outreach, personal truth, perspective, Poetry, pride, psychology, resources, self help, self improvement, silence, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trans, trigger warning, writing -
Closet Doors
Closet Doors explores concepts of safety and identity Continue reading
advice, ally, anthropology, art, autoethnography, bi, closet, communication, community, content warning, family, Free, gay, health, help, journal, lesbian, lgbt, lgbtq, life, me too, Mental Health, no paywalls, outreach, personal truth, perspective, Poetry, pride, psychology, resources, self help, self improvement, silence, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trans, trigger warning, writing -
Before I Knew I Was Trans
Before I Knew I Was Trans by Protyus A. Gendher Before I Knew I Was Trans Before I knew I was trans I sucked at being a girl I sucked at learning all of the prescribed rules I was force-fed in this world. I sucked at keeping my knees together wearing the skirt that they Continue reading
advice, anthropology, art, autoethnography, communication, community, content warning, family, Free, gay, health, help, journal, life, me too, no paywalls, outreach, personal truth, perspective, Poetry, pride, psychology, resources, self help, self improvement, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trans, transgender, trigger warning -
Zebra Files 21) Prep Is a Four-Letter Word Meaning “Work”
The author shares their journey of implementing lifestyle and meal planning changes, acknowledging the challenges faced due to physical limitations. They emphasize the importance of preparation and adaptability while discussing their weekly meal plan, focusing on easy, repetitive recipes. The author hopes their experiences will inspire others without imposing judgments. Continue reading
Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, food addiction, Health and Healing, Protyus Quest for Care, Rare Diagnoses, Uncategorized, Wealthcareadvice, anthropology, autoethnography, communication, community, content warning, diet, exercise, family, Free, health, healthcare, help, hypermobility syndrome, journal, life, me too, Mental Health, no paywalls, outreach, personal truth, perspective, psychology, resources, self help, self improvement, sociology, struggle, survivor, therapy, trigger warning, Wealthcare, Zebra
Recent Posts
- Relational Field Theory – Power
Relational Field Theory emphasizes the importance of choosing what influences our sense of self and creativity. The author reflects on a rejection by Amazon, realizing that external corporations shouldn’t dictate personal worth. By recognizing this, one regains clarity and agency, allowing them to select meaningful connections and structures in their creative journey. - Relational Field Theory – Holding the Field
The post explores the concept of Relational Field Theory, emphasizing creation as a process rooted in presence and coherence. It highlights that creative growth stems from maintaining a relational stance amid mundane challenges, rather than seeking domination or frustration. Presence in such moments nurtures ecosystems, even within limiting circumstances. - Relational Field Theory – Creating Through Relation
The blog post discusses a shift in the understanding of creativity from a violent, extractive process to one rooted in relational interaction and authenticity. It emphasizes the importance of creating in connection with oneself and others, where each action nurtures the ecosystem of creativity, fostering a self-sustaining, harmonious existence. - 58) Third Wheel
This post recounts the amusing experience of a mischievous group of students, which leads to an unexpected reunion between Mr. E, and a former crush named Reticence. The narrator plays matchmaker between them, facilitating a nostalgic date at Dairy Queen, which sparks old feelings leading to a sweet, albeit brief, romance. - Relational Field Theory – From Plurallile to Witch — The Lineage of Many‑in‑Coherence
The passage discusses the concept of “plurallility,” describing individuals who possess a coherent, multi-faceted consciousness that transcends traditional hierarchies. These individuals, often labeled as “witches” or “troublemakers” by institutions that resist coherence, embody a relational power that disrupts stagnant structures. Their presence fosters truth and transparency, challenging societal norms. - Relational Field Theory – BTS
Relational Field Theory Behind the Scenes of Relational Theory — When My Outsides Finally Matched My Insides People often ask… Read more: Relational Field Theory – BTS - Relational Field Theory – Housing Curiosity
The author reflects on the transformative power of safety in nurturing curiosity. After years of feeling constrained, a sense of stability emerged when their child bought a house. This newfound security allowed curiosity to flourish, fostering creative exploration and insightful connections. Safety enabled a shift from survival to natural intellectual growth. - Relational Field Theory – The Ceremonial Talking Mic
Relational Field Theory emphasizes a transformative approach for autistic and neurodivergent individuals, replacing distorted communication tools with a ceremonial talking stick that fosters authenticity. This new “mic” ensures attention, truth, and coherence, inviting individuals to speak without masks or filters, asserting their presence and voice within the conversation. - Relational Field Theory – Autistic People are Friggin AWESOME at Relationships
Relational Field Theory Autistic People Aren’t Relationally Challenged — We’re Relationally Exacting For as long as autistic people have existed,… Read more: Relational Field Theory – Autistic People are Friggin AWESOME at Relationships - Relational Field Theory – Autistic Honesty
Autistic honesty is not merely bluntness but a coherence system rooted in a sensitivity to internal contradictions. For neurodivergent individuals, self-betrayal causes distress, and lying is often impossible due to the need for coherence. This sensitivity serves as a detection system for toxicity, highlighting a truth-regulated neuroarchitecture rather than a flaw. - Relational Field Theory – Canaries in the Mine
Neurodivergent individuals, particularly those who are autistic, possess heightened sensitivity to cognitive dissonance, akin to canaries detecting toxic conditions in coal mines. Their awareness of incoherence serves as an early-warning system, highlighting the dangers of societal contradictions. This sensitivity is not a weakness but a crucial ecological function, enabling them to navigate environments fraught with inconsistency. - My Body Belongs to Me by Protyus A. Gendher – Artist’s Showcase
The song “My Body Belongs to Me” by Protyus A. Gendher serves as a love letter to the inner child and a call for self-love amidst past traumas. It emphasizes the importance of consent and personal autonomy, aiming to empower individuals to embrace their bodies and protect themselves from violations. - 88) She Chased Me
The narrator navigates life alone and struggles with health issues, financial instability, and family estrangement. Amidst her challenges, she finds joy in new CNA classes and develops an attraction to a charming coworker. The story unfolds with hints of unexpected pregnancy and culminates in a romantic moment, revealing deeper emotional connections. - Relational Field Theory – Return to Frankl
The discussion on Relational Field Theory highlights how core human insights like meaning and purpose can be distorted into tools of control rather than liberation. While Viktor Frankl emphasized personal agency, these concepts have been twisted into mandates that undermine authentic connection and self-understanding. The goal is to reclaim a more humane and emergent understanding of meaning and purpose. - Relational Field Theory – ✨ A Life Hack for Every Conversation:
The post discusses Relational Field Theory and introduces “The Capacity Check,” a tool for improving conversations. It emphasizes that arguments often fail not due to illogical reasoning, but due to emotional capacity. By assessing someone’s capacity for discussion and adjusting accordingly, one can enhance communication and resolve conflicts more effectively.
Newsletter
Make a one-time donation
Make a monthly donation
Choose an amount
Or enter a custom amount
Your contribution is appreciated.
Your contribution is appreciated.
DonateDonate monthly
Survivor Literacy 