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Daily Prompt – Far From Home
Daily Prompt – Far From Home Today’s prompt asks us to describe the farthest we’ve ever roamed from home. I’ve spent a significant amount of this blog trying to ferret that out. Honestly, I think that for most of my life, I’ve been imagining home, but haven’t ever really had one of my own. A Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Breakout Topics 3 – Shame Resilience
The content explores Brené Brown’s concepts of Shame Resilience and Vulnerability, emphasizing their transformative significance in overcoming feelings of shame. It discusses how shame operates, its gendered perceptions, and the importance of processing vulnerability for healing and authenticity. The author highlights personal experiences and the role of therapy in fostering resilience. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 35) Pain Group
The author attended a Pain Support Group for the first time, prompted by feelings of mild suicidality, depression, and anxiety. While reflecting on their struggles, they shared emotions and experiences with others, finding some usefulness in the conversation. Although physically exhausting, they’re open to the potential benefits of the group. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Breakout Topics 2 – Logical Fallacies
The author reflects on personal growth stemming from exposure to logical fallacies during college, highlighting their role in overcoming a toxic upbringing. Understanding these reasoning flaws has enabled the author to detach from damaging interactions, particularly ad hominem attacks. The upcoming posts will delve into various logical fallacies and their implications. Continue reading
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I Can’t Believe He’s Dead
The author mourns the loss of Graham Greene, highlighting the rarity of authentic minority representation in American media. They express admiration for Greene’s diverse roles, especially in “Dances with Wolves” and “Maverick,” and encourage readers to explore more of his filmography. The post emphasizes the importance of healing and understanding. Continue reading
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The author reflects on their ideal home, emphasizing safety, emotional support, and respect over aesthetics and design. After experiencing homelessness, they prioritize a nurturing environment filled with love and acceptance, where family members can thrive without negative influences. They express renewed hope for achieving this vision amidst family restructuring. Continue reading
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59) T Was Easier to Love than Me
The narrative reflects on a cherished relationship with a cousin’s girlfriend who became an integral part of the family. Her bond with the narrator and their mother brought joy, laughter, and genuine connection, contrasting with the narrator’s longing for a similar closeness with their own mother. The story highlights themes of love and familial ties. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 18 – Week 12 – Family Journal Exercise
In Week Twelve’s family journal exercise, participants review past entries to identify patterns and changes in relationships. Families gather to share reflections on detoxifying their home, discussing challenges, surprises, and improvements. They then decide whether to continue practicing or advance to Level 2, celebrating their efforts throughout the process. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 34) Hypermobility Workout
The post introduces a daily routine for managing hypermobility, particularly focusing on lower-body workouts available in two parts on YouTube. While not medical advice, the author hopes to raise awareness about the effort required for hypermobile individuals to function and encourages others to consider their own bodily needs. Continue reading
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58) Third Wheel
This post recounts the amusing experience of a mischievous group of students, which leads to an unexpected reunion between Mr. E, and a former crush named Reticence. The narrator plays matchmaker between them, facilitating a nostalgic date at Dairy Queen, which sparks old feelings leading to a sweet, albeit brief, romance. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 17 – Week 11 – Self Soothing
Week Eleven focuses on emotional regulation, emphasizing self-soothing techniques to manage emotional responses. Journaling about past emotional reactions helps identify personal triggers and responses. The exercise encourages finding effective calming strategies, practicing them, and sharing with family to enhance collective emotional well-being. Engaging in role-plays illustrates successful self-soothing outcomes. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 32) Getting My Butt Kicked By Everything
The author reflects on their challenges managing physical pain and limitations, particularly during physical therapy. Despite planning and efforts, they struggle with pain that affects their work and daily activities. Yet, they experience moments of improvement and hope. Upcoming dental surgery and participation in a pain support group offer potential paths forward. Continue reading
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57) Western Wear
The narrative recounts the author’s quest for independence through their first job at a western wear store amid a strained relationship with their mother. They find excitement in their romance with a truck driver, which provides a sense of validation. However, their job ends abruptly due to a wrongful accusation, leaving them heartbroken and disheartened. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 16 – Week 10 – Give and Fast
In Week Ten of the DBT tools program, participants learn about GIVE (for relationship effectiveness) and FAST (for self-respect effectiveness). GIVE emphasizes gentleness, interest, validation, and ease in interactions, while FAST focuses on fairness, genuine apologies, adherence to values, and truthfulness. Role-playing these techniques helps in practicing a compassionate approach. Continue reading
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56) Home Alone
The narrative recounts a young sibling’s tumultuous experience when their older brother returns home from the Navy after a year. His arrival, marked by shame and visible trauma, quickly deteriorates, revealing substance abuse issues. Tensions rise as the brother’s erratic behavior escalates, leaving the family in fear and uncertainty, impacting their home life profoundly. Continue reading
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