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62) Taking a Dip in a Really Big Church
The narrator faced rejection from roommates and felt abandoned by a friend. Despite emotional turmoil, moving into Brocade’s home revitalized their spirit, allowing for personal growth and joy through new activities and belonging at a supportive church. However, pressure from family led to their return home, disrupting progress and freedom. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 5 – Check Yourself
The content emphasizes the importance of self-reflection in conflict situations. It encourages individuals to examine their own behaviors and contributions to conflicts, rather than solely identifying others as the source. By fostering accountability and openness, individuals can reduce conflicts and create a more honest and approachable environment in relationships. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 37) Accessing Care
The author shares their journey of navigating healthcare access challenges while managing health issues. They reduced work hours to alleviate symptoms but lost private insurance, complicating care access. Despite obtaining an MRI revealing spinal stenosis, delays in referrals and appointments threaten their ability to return to work by January. The struggle continues. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 4 – Barriers
The content discusses the author’s journey to understand and address toxic family dynamics. Reflecting on personal experiences, they emphasize the importance of having tools to create healthier environments. The “Toxicity Toolkit” aims to promote balance and autonomy within families, advocating for gentle persistence in overcoming resistance to change and emphasizing self-improvement. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 3 – Journaling
Daily journaling is a valuable practice that helps in self-reflection and understanding emotions. It should be used not only during assigned exercises but consistently, recording feelings, experiences, and insights. Various methods are encouraged, such as writing, audio recordings, or video journaling, allowing personal preference to guide the process. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 2 – Private Reactions
The content emphasizes the importance of having private space to process conflicts and behaviors. It suggests that disengaging socially helps individuals think clearly without the pressure of saving face. Writing letters can aid in expressing feelings when direct communication is challenging, promoting understanding and reducing defensiveness. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Breakout Topics 1- Emotional Regulation
The content discusses emotional regulation and its importance for personal growth. It emphasizes individual responsibility in managing emotions and adapting behaviors. Techniques such as the Opposite Action are suggested to reframe emotional responses. Practicing emotional regulation enhances outcomes and resilience, while self-care is essential for effective management of emotions. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 1 – Listening on Purpose
The content emphasizes the importance of intentional listening in conversations. It compares “Listening to Receive,” which fosters genuine connection and rejuvenation, with “Listening to Respond,” which can lead to exhaustion and superficial interactions. The author reflects on personal experiences and encourages readers to evaluate their own conversational engagement. Continue reading
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61) Two Lesbians and a Maintenance Guy
The narrative recounts a young person’s challenging journey of self-discovery while working at a fabric store. After befriending two lesbians and facing difficulties at home, they seek refuge with a maintenance guy, leading to a complicated relationship. Struggles with autonomy and unexpected situations culminate in a peculiar but humorous incident involving handcuffs and a police… Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Breakout Topics 4 – Holiday Preparation
The content outlines a 14-day toolkit for preparing for a non-toxic Thanksgiving, focusing on identifying toxic behaviors from past gatherings and establishing ground rules. It encourages reflection, role-playing responses to problematic situations, and fostering a supportive network among attendees. The ultimate goal is to create a safe, enjoyable holiday experience for all. Continue reading
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Daily Writing Prompt 9.4.2025
This daily prompt reveals that the concept of a grudge carries a certain amount of gaslighting. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 36) It’s All Connected
The author expresses frustration with the interconnectedness of insurance systems after losing coverage, preventing access to necessary medications and treatments. Facing bureaucratic obstacles, they question the impact of their work hours on pain levels and quality of life while navigating the intimidating process of submitting disability paperwork. Resilience is tested amid these challenges. Continue reading
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Narcissistic Hoax
The post critiques the absence of men’s voices in advocating for women’s rights and accountability in society amid persistent issues like human trafficking and narcissism. It challenges men to actively support change, express outrage, and protect vulnerable individuals, emphasizing the need for societal and systemic reform while recognizing the courage of survivors who speak out. Continue reading
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60) Getting Witchy With It
The author shares their journey into Wicca, influenced by a Wiccan brother and an inspiring dream. Discovering a local witchy bookstore, they embraced its community and valuable resources, particularly the book “Helping Yourself with White Witchcraft.” Wicca nurtured their autonomy, creativity, and self-discovery during their challenging teen years. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – Far From Home
Daily Prompt – Far From Home Today’s prompt asks us to describe the farthest we’ve ever roamed from home. I’ve spent a significant amount of this blog trying to ferret that out. Honestly, I think that for most of my life, I’ve been imagining home, but haven’t ever really had one of my own. A Continue reading
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