Protyus A. Gendher
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7) New Scripts – Revisited
The narrative reflects on a childhood shaped by rigid family dynamics and expectations, particularly towards maternal roles. The author recounts the contrast between their mother’s lively past and the oppressive environment created by their grandmother. Moving to Indiana signifies a turning point, offering glimpses of newfound freedom and self-discovery amid evolving family scripts. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 8 – Week 4 – Praise
In Week Four, the focus is on positive reinforcement, particularly praise, as a tool for promoting healthy behaviors in relationships. It emphasizes the importance of specificity in feedback and cautions against public praise to avoid manipulative tendencies. The exercise encourages private recognition of positive actions using genuine communication. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – 1-6-25
“If you had a freeway billboard, what would it say?” BELIEVE SURVIVORS Continue reading
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99) Leggo My Preggo Part Three
The narrator grapples with feelings of hurt over family dynamics while navigating a newfound pregnancy and complex workplace relationships. As they develop a crush on Elway, a married coworker, their interactions draw scrutiny from a friend. Despite challenges, they share moments of connection, highlighting the intricacies of young love and friendship. Continue reading
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98) Leggo My Preggo Part Two
The narrator navigates pregnancy at eighteen, revealing the challenges of societal expectations and a strained relationship with her mother. Supportive friends provide some comfort, while revealing doubts from others amplify feelings of inadequacy. A pivotal phone call with her mother confirms disapproval as she faces lack of familial support and harsh judgments about her situation. Continue reading
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37) That One Time I Snuck Out
The author reflects on their high school choir experience, where singing provided comfort and connection. They describe a close friendship with Mr. E, a rebellious peer, sharing dreams and secrets during secret visits. A risky late-night venture ultimately leads to panic and Mr. E’s sudden disappearance, leaving unresolved feelings behind. Continue reading
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68) Anywhere But Here
The author reflects on their lack of financial literacy education in high school, highlighting experiences in home economics that focused on practical skills rather than budgeting or managing finances. They recount their journey to freedom after leaving a controlling home life, where they had to learn independence and self-worth while feeling that financial knowledge was… Continue reading
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6) SCRIPT Theory – Revisited
The SCRIPT theory discusses how social interactions rely on predefined scripts that shape perceptions and relationships. These scripts guide communication and behavior, reinforcing social norms and expectations. While they can restrict authenticity, individuals have the potential to create new scripts for personal expression, challenging established norms and promoting self-awareness within society. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 7 – Week 3 – Untrue Narratives
Week Three focuses on recognizing and addressing untrue or incomplete narratives often used in gaslighting. Such narratives can control relationships by casting the Narrator as a hero or victim, while others become villains. Participants are encouraged to question these narratives, share truthful perspectives, and mitigate toxic behaviors to rebuild authenticity. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 6 – Week 2 – Family Bill of Rights
In Week Two, families are encouraged to establish a Family Bill of Rights based on their values. Creating this Bill, alongside Family Expectations, promotes a shared foundation, fostering dialogue and investment in family principles. Visual reminders of these agreements can enhance family interactions, reducing toxicity and encouraging positive behavior among members. Continue reading
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97) Leggo My Preggo Part One
The author reflects on her unexpected pregnancy at 18, navigating her emotions and family expectations. She appreciates the support from the father of her child, emphasizing her independence and determination to raise the child on her terms. She embraces motherhood as a significant rite of passage filled with love and purpose. Continue reading
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It’s Messy – A Survivor Song Cycle
It’s Messy – A Survivor Song Cycle When I woke up this morning I did not expect to be releasing my debut album today. Sometimes, life is just magic, and wonderful, and unstoppable. I’d been seeing the ads for Suno on Facebook. Normally, I just assume that flashy new things are not for me. There’s Continue reading
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36) My Childhood In Pictures
The post shares a nostalgic glimpse into the author’s childhood through a collection of photos, starting from a young age and including family members and pets. It reflects on hair struggles, school memories, and a specific International Day celebration. The author invites readers to enjoy this visual journey into their past. Continue reading
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67) Perfect Storm
The author recounts being questioned by the police, and punished by their mother. A plan is hatched to leave town. Continue reading
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5) I Wanna Play
The post “I Wanna Play” by Protyus A. Gendher reflects on the author’s experiences with isolation and societal exclusion throughout childhood and adulthood. Through evocative poetry, the author expresses longing for acceptance and understanding while critiquing the arbitrary social rules that dictate belonging. Ultimately, they seek to redefine the game rather than conform to it. Continue reading
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