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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 17 – Being Handled
The post discusses the harmful cycle of defensiveness and infantilization in interactions. It highlights how individuals adapt by “handling” others, leading to a lack of genuine communication. The message encourages recognizing and interrupting these behaviors while advocating for the use of effective communication tools to promote healthier relationships and emotional regulation. Continue reading
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74) The Old Witch
The narrative explores the relationship between the narrator, a young person navigating life challenges, and an older Native woman, referred to as the Old Witch. She provides a refuge and imparts wisdom about authenticity and rejecting shame. Their bond deepens through shared experiences, secrets, and the tension of attraction, ultimately highlighting themes of connection and… Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 16- Check off lists
The content discusses how SCRIPTs, particularly Check-Off Lists in holiday traditions, influence individuals’ behaviors, often leading them to prioritize social approval over authenticity. While these lists simplify interactions and meet societal expectations, they can suppress genuine feelings and create a sense of performance rather than true connection. Reassessing these SCRIPTs promotes authenticity. Continue reading
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73) What is a Juggalo?
The author rolls with the punches as life takes twists and turns through Pinedale, WY. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 15 – Tiptoeing
Tiptoeing These ideas are so much better Shared!! Life off limits I watch, as people posture politely around each other, for the sake of being pleasant, or for the sake of not rocking the boat. It’s important to be polite and considerate of others, but at what cost? I watch as people tiptoe around off-limits topics, Continue reading
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72) Stranded
The author recounts their experience in Pinedale after a friend is arrested. Feeling vulnerable and relying on the hospitality of a local pastor’s family, they struggle with uncomfortable dynamics while trying to find stability. Eventually, they escape to live with a more relatable friend, seeking independence and employment after weeks of turmoil. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 14- Backhanded Compliments
The content discusses the concept of backhanded compliments, highlighting how these remarks tarnish genuine praise with negative undertones. It emphasizes the importance of acknowledging both the compliment and the negative comment, fostering open communication to address underlying issues. Responding calmly can lead to healing and better understanding in relationships. Continue reading
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71) Wyoming by Way of Utah Part 3
The narrative describes a road trip through Utah to Salt Lake City, highlighting the challenges and experiences along the way. The protagonist deals with personal reflections on relationships and the cultural differences in Utah. After engaging with friends and facing car troubles, they consider a future in Wyoming, yearning for freedom and nature. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 13 – Themes and Patterns
Journaling aids in behavior change by helping individuals identify recurring themes and patterns, as well as triggers. Documenting thoughts through logs allows for data analysis, revealing patterns and emotional responses. Regularly reviewing this information enables individuals to recognize harmful behaviors and apply strategies to create positive change. Continue reading
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70) Wyoming by Way of Utah Part Two
In “Wyoming by Way of Utah Part Two,” the narrator recounts a chaotic road trip filled with challenges, including losing crucial belongings and navigating unexpected situations. While seeking jobs and support, emotions ran high among friends. Ultimately, they find the lost planner, restoring hope and camaraderie amidst their struggles. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 48) Recharge My Spinal Cord Stimulator With Me!
The author shares their experience recharging their spinal cord stimulator, showcasing videos of the process. They encourage followers to connect on various social media platforms and are open to questions about their journey. The stimulator’s battery is implanted under the skin in the lower back and requires charging through the skin. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 12 – Boundaries
The content discusses the importance of setting personal boundaries for self-respect and growth. It emphasizes that recognizing when one oversteps or violates others’ boundaries fosters self-awareness. The accompanying poem reflects on the pain of unreciprocated love and the liberation found in understanding that one’s worth is independent of others’ approval. Continue reading
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69) Wyoming by Way of Utah- Part One
The narrative explores a journey of liberation from a toxic family environment. It reflects on mental preparation, self-discovery, and authenticity amidst conflicting identities. The protagonist confronts past trauma, embraces freedom, and values their evolution. Despite challenges, they find fulfillment in their choices and the beauty of the diverse world ahead. Continue reading
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Zebra Files 47) Brain and Spine
The author shared their experience at the UC Health Brain and Spine Clinic, where they met Gene Cook, PA. Despite being informed that surgery isn’t an option due to their BMI, the appointment offered valuable insights into their condition, including Spondylolisthesis. They plan to follow up on neuropathic pain and explore further options like a… Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 11 – Taking Their Side
The content discusses conflict resolution techniques, emphasizing the importance of taking the other person’s side during disputes. It highlights the human need for validation and suggests pausing to understand their perspective. Additionally, it references Dialectical Behavior Therapy skills (DEAR MAN, GIVE, and FAST) to aid in effective communication while navigating conflicts. Continue reading
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