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80) Ripples
The author reflects on their journey with trauma and parenting, emphasizing the challenge of sharing painful stories while trying to connect with their child. They explore the impact of unspoken trauma on relationships and highlight the importance of healing, openness, and authenticity. This process helps build trust and understanding within their family. Continue reading
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8) What’s Abuse? – Revisited
The post explores the complex and culturally nuanced definitions of abuse, highlighting practices such as child circumcision and finger cutting within specific tribes. It questions societal norms that normalize harmful behaviors and reflects on personal accountability. The author emphasizes the need for honest self-examination regarding actions that may cause harm to others. Continue reading
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35) The Panopticon
The content discusses the concept of the Panopticon and its implications in everyday life, reflecting on how surveillance influences behavior. It shares personal anecdotes of growing up in a community where individuals constantly monitored each other, leading to anxiety and a sense of inescapability. The narrative highlights the psychological effects of such a surveillance culture. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 4 – Week 0 – Taking Inventory
Week Zero Taking Inventory Week Zero: Journal Congratulations! You’re ready to get started. You’ve decided to take on detoxifying your home (or other group environment). You’ve got journals for everyone, and everyone agrees that they want better, healthier, happier relationships. I’m so excited for you! Next week you’ll start working together as a group, but Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 15 – Week 9 – Love Bombing
The Toxicity Toolkit addresses toxic behaviors that affect relationships, arising from various life experiences. It acknowledges that everyone displays toxic traits and aims to provide exercises for families to combat toxicity and cultivate healthier communication. The toolkit emphasizes recognizing toxicity, employing dialectical behavioral therapy, and fostering a positive environment for growth. Continue reading
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64) Emotional Ambush
The author reflects on their struggle with emotional ambushes, feeling unworthy of their pain and ashamed of their emotional responses. They highlight the deep impact these ambushes can have on children, shaping adult behaviors and fears. The post emphasizes the importance of breaking this cycle for healthier emotional development. Continue reading
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8) What’s Abuse? – Revisited
The post explores the complex and culturally nuanced definitions of abuse, highlighting practices such as child circumcision and finger cutting within specific tribes. It questions societal norms that normalize harmful behaviors and reflects on personal accountability. The author emphasizes the need for honest self-examination regarding actions that may cause harm to others. Continue reading
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64) Emotional Ambush
The author reflects on their struggle with emotional ambushes, feeling unworthy of their pain and ashamed of their emotional responses. They highlight the deep impact these ambushes can have on children, shaping adult behaviors and fears. The post emphasizes the importance of breaking this cycle for healthier emotional development. Continue reading
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8) What’s Abuse? – Revisited
The post explores the complex and culturally nuanced definitions of abuse, highlighting practices such as child circumcision and finger cutting within specific tribes. It questions societal norms that normalize harmful behaviors and reflects on personal accountability. The author emphasizes the need for honest self-examination regarding actions that may cause harm to others. Continue reading
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80) Ripples
The author reflects on their journey with trauma and parenting, emphasizing the challenge of sharing painful stories while trying to connect with their child. They explore the impact of unspoken trauma on relationships and highlight the importance of healing, openness, and authenticity. This process helps build trust and understanding within their family. Continue reading
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AIQ- Gaslighting
Gaslighting in modern conservatism is characterized by psychological manipulation tactics aimed at distorting reality and undermining trust in institutions. Common strategies include denying factual evidence, rewriting historical narratives, sowing distrust in the media, and dismissing climate change impacts. This behavior erodes public discourse, fosters polarization, and disempowers marginalized groups. Continue reading
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64) Emotional Ambush
The author reflects on their struggle with emotional ambushes, feeling unworthy of their pain and ashamed of their emotional responses. They highlight the deep impact these ambushes can have on children, shaping adult behaviors and fears. The post emphasizes the importance of breaking this cycle for healthier emotional development. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 4 – Week 0 – Taking Inventory
Week Zero Taking Inventory Week Zero: Journal Congratulations! You’re ready to get started. You’ve decided to take on detoxifying your home (or other group environment). You’ve got journals for everyone, and everyone agrees that they want better, healthier, happier relationships. I’m so excited for you! Next week you’ll start working together as a group, but Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Breakout Topics 1- Emotional Regulation
The content discusses emotional regulation and its importance for personal growth. It emphasizes individual responsibility in managing emotions and adapting behaviors. Techniques such as the Opposite Action are suggested to reframe emotional responses. Practicing emotional regulation enhances outcomes and resilience, while self-care is essential for effective management of emotions. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 1 – Listening on Purpose
The content emphasizes the importance of intentional listening in conversations. It compares “Listening to Receive,” which fosters genuine connection and rejuvenation, with “Listening to Respond,” which can lead to exhaustion and superficial interactions. The author reflects on personal experiences and encourages readers to evaluate their own conversational engagement. Continue reading
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