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77) A Willing Hand

The narrator shares experiences working during haying season for a local rancher, feeling eager yet anxious to prove their worth. They navigate challenges with tractors, bond with a mostly established crew, and yearn for acceptance. The job brings personal growth and reflection, contrasting their past family ties with newfound independence. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 20 – Setbacks

The post discusses the complexities of personal growth and dealing with emotional triggers. It emphasizes the importance of using tools and techniques to navigate challenges. The author reflects on the messy nature of progress, highlighting the need for open communication within families. Engaging with emotions and understanding triggers can lead to healthier resolutions. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 19 – The Silent Treatment

The post emphasizes the significance of disengaging during emotionally charged moments to allow individuals to process information fully. It argues that silence, often misinterpreted as rejection, is essential for self-analysis and healing. By valuing silence, one can avoid reactive responses and foster a healthier, more constructive dialogue. Continue reading
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76) Wide Open Spaces

The passage reflects on personal experiences of living on a back road surrounded by nature and explores themes of food, connection, and language learning. The author recounts cooking memories with their mother, the challenges of taking a sign language course, and the emotional friction within family dynamics, ultimately affecting their sense of belonging. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 18 – Ups and Downs

The author reflects on personal growth through a transformative toolkit with family. While experiencing deeper connections and positive changes in parenting, challenges arise from family resistance. Despite the pain of rejection, the author finds value in these experiences, leading to clarity and relief from misunderstandings. Healing involves both cooperation and confronting discomfort. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – The More You Know – 9.18.25

The author addresses a plethora of questions with the help of AI. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 17 – Being Handled

The post discusses the harmful cycle of defensiveness and infantilization in interactions. It highlights how individuals adapt by “handling” others, leading to a lack of genuine communication. The message encourages recognizing and interrupting these behaviors while advocating for the use of effective communication tools to promote healthier relationships and emotional regulation. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – Holidays – 9.17.2025

The author reflects on their evolving relationship with holidays, starting with joyful, family-centered experiences as a child, overshadowed by trauma and stress in later years. They express gratitude for moments free of expectations and conflict, noting a desire to create new traditions focused on joy rather than obligation, amidst past struggles. Continue reading
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74) The Old Witch

The narrative explores the relationship between the narrator, a young person navigating life challenges, and an older Native woman, referred to as the Old Witch. She provides a refuge and imparts wisdom about authenticity and rejecting shame. Their bond deepens through shared experiences, secrets, and the tension of attraction, ultimately highlighting themes of connection and… Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 16- Check off lists

The content discusses how SCRIPTs, particularly Check-Off Lists in holiday traditions, influence individuals’ behaviors, often leading them to prioritize social approval over authenticity. While these lists simplify interactions and meet societal expectations, they can suppress genuine feelings and create a sense of performance rather than true connection. Reassessing these SCRIPTs promotes authenticity. Continue reading
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Grieving Our Friends While They’re Still Alive

The content discusses the emotional struggle of grieving friends who are still alive, emphasizing the conflict between personal values and the need for authenticity. It notes the importance of intentional healing amidst complicated grief, particularly concerning lost friendships and the disillusionment with societal expectations. Continue reading
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