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86) Jealousy
The author recounts the painful experience of being asked to leave a polygamous living arrangement due to jealousy. Citing ongoing turbulence with their mother they move into a dilapidated cabin, facing challenges while trying to cope with heartbreak and feelings of abandonment, longing for love and connection amidst hardships. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 29 – More Happy Child
The author shares a transformative experience using “The Happy Child,” which significantly improved their relationship with their child. Through shared lessons, they process trauma, discuss parenting mistakes, and role-play new approaches. This dynamic change fosters emotional safety and trust, leading to better communication and healing within the family. Highly recommended resource. Continue reading
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85) Ice
After a difficult season, the narrator takes a night job as a laundress at a care facility, driving an unreliable old car. Struggling with harsh winter conditions, she navigates challenges both at work and on the road. Personal struggles intertwine with moments of connection, leading to a poignant reflection on dependence and vulnerability. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 28 – The Happy Child
The Happy Child app offers parents concise daily lessons that enhance their relationship with children based on scientific research. Users can choose their learning pace, typically starting with just five minutes daily. The app promotes love and recognition of a child’s choices, encouraging improved family dynamics and positive parenting practices. Continue reading
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84) Matthew
The post reflects on the impact of Matthew Shepard’s murder on the author, who feels deeply connected to their identity as a bisexual witch in Wyoming. It highlights the pervasive bigotry encountered, despite some community members claiming to support “live and let live.” The author expresses determination to fight for equality and honor Matthew’s legacy,… Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 27 – TEAM
The author recounts their family’s struggles during the pandemic, emphasizing the importance of treating each other as teammates. Initial cohabitation challenges led to feelings of overwhelm and disconnection. Through therapy, they learned to foster collaboration, communicate supportively, and reassess interactions to create a nurturing home environment, ultimately promoting healing and understanding. Continue reading
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83) Fire
In autumn Wyoming, preparations for winter begin amidst a backdrop of emotional turmoil. The narrator feels a growing distance from her partner, exacerbated by his struggles. A fire starts during yard work, leading to chaos and fear. The narrator grapples with feelings of resentment and entrapment as relationships become strained. Continue reading
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AIQ – The Ethics of Tyranny
The discussion delves into the ethical tensions faced by various professions under the Trump administration, highlighting systemic pressure that forces conflict between professional ethics and political directives. It emphasizes resistance by legal, medical, educational, and military sectors rather than alignment with administration policies, showcasing a struggle for integrity amid coercive governance. Continue reading
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82) Storytime
The narrative explores the dynamics between two storytellers, their shared past, and the complexities of their relationships, particularly involving a close friend who didn’t pursue a romantic connection due to societal expectations. It delves into themes of vulnerability, unspoken tensions, and the longing for openness, revealing deep emotional struggles and familial betrayals. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 25 – Letting Go
The post discusses the importance of letting go in relationships where toxicity and manipulation exist. It emphasizes understanding others’ responses, assessing situations, and establishing boundaries for self-protection. Recognizing that not everyone shares the same commitment to healthy behaviors is crucial for personal healing and acceptance of reality, even if it’s painful. Continue reading
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My Autism
Discovering my autism was pivotal in my journey toward self-love, providing clarity and understanding. Embracing this aspect of my identity helped me appreciate who I am, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling life. For more insights, check the linked video. Continue reading
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81) Therapy
Therapy What It Is.What It Isn’t.Is It Even What It Is?If It Isn’t, Then What Is It? I’m lucky. I have Medicaid and I so I’m able to get into therapy easier, because the institution is more sure of the payment, and I don’t have to worry about climbing the paywall that has kept me Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 24 – Encanto
The author discusses the importance of differentiating gentle parenting from permissive parenting, especially in light of children’s media influences. Unlike disappointing films like “Luca” and “Cruella,” “Encanto” offers valuable messages about authenticity and family support. The film is praised for its positive themes, encouraging shared viewing experiences and discussions about its meaningful content. Continue reading
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80) Ripples
The author reflects on their journey with trauma and parenting, emphasizing the challenge of sharing painful stories while trying to connect with their child. They explore the impact of unspoken trauma on relationships and highlight the importance of healing, openness, and authenticity. This process helps build trust and understanding within their family. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 23 – Self Care
In today’s demanding world, self-care is vital for well-being amidst unending pressures. Understanding personal needs is key; activities like playing music, journaling, or enjoying nature can rejuvenate. Reflect on what energizes and depletes you, and prioritize self-care while encouraging loved ones to do the same. Happy healing. Continue reading
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