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63) It All Fell Apart
The author recounts tense family dynamics that lead to them leaving home. Here home, school, and work converge to compel the authors risky behaviors. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 5 – Check Yourself
The content emphasizes the importance of self-reflection in conflict situations. It encourages individuals to examine their own behaviors and contributions to conflicts, rather than solely identifying others as the source. By fostering accountability and openness, individuals can reduce conflicts and create a more honest and approachable environment in relationships. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 4 – Barriers
The content discusses the author’s journey to understand and address toxic family dynamics. Reflecting on personal experiences, they emphasize the importance of having tools to create healthier environments. The “Toxicity Toolkit” aims to promote balance and autonomy within families, advocating for gentle persistence in overcoming resistance to change and emphasizing self-improvement. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 2 – Private Reactions
The content emphasizes the importance of having private space to process conflicts and behaviors. It suggests that disengaging socially helps individuals think clearly without the pressure of saving face. Writing letters can aid in expressing feelings when direct communication is challenging, promoting understanding and reducing defensiveness. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 1 – Listening on Purpose
The content emphasizes the importance of intentional listening in conversations. It compares “Listening to Receive,” which fosters genuine connection and rejuvenation, with “Listening to Respond,” which can lead to exhaustion and superficial interactions. The author reflects on personal experiences and encourages readers to evaluate their own conversational engagement. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Breakout Topics 4 – Holiday Preparation
The content outlines a 14-day toolkit for preparing for a non-toxic Thanksgiving, focusing on identifying toxic behaviors from past gatherings and establishing ground rules. It encourages reflection, role-playing responses to problematic situations, and fostering a supportive network among attendees. The ultimate goal is to create a safe, enjoyable holiday experience for all. Continue reading
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Daily Writing Prompt 9.4.2025
This daily prompt reveals that the concept of a grudge carries a certain amount of gaslighting. Continue reading
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Narcissistic Hoax
The post critiques the absence of men’s voices in advocating for women’s rights and accountability in society amid persistent issues like human trafficking and narcissism. It challenges men to actively support change, express outrage, and protect vulnerable individuals, emphasizing the need for societal and systemic reform while recognizing the courage of survivors who speak out. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – Far From Home
Daily Prompt – Far From Home Today’s prompt asks us to describe the farthest we’ve ever roamed from home. I’ve spent a significant amount of this blog trying to ferret that out. Honestly, I think that for most of my life, I’ve been imagining home, but haven’t ever really had one of my own. A Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Breakout Topics 3 – Shame Resilience
The content explores Brené Brown’s concepts of Shame Resilience and Vulnerability, emphasizing their transformative significance in overcoming feelings of shame. It discusses how shame operates, its gendered perceptions, and the importance of processing vulnerability for healing and authenticity. The author highlights personal experiences and the role of therapy in fostering resilience. Continue reading
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59) T Was Easier to Love than Me
The narrative reflects on a cherished relationship with a cousin’s girlfriend who became an integral part of the family. Her bond with the narrator and their mother brought joy, laughter, and genuine connection, contrasting with the narrator’s longing for a similar closeness with their own mother. The story highlights themes of love and familial ties. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 18 – Week 12 – Family Journal Exercise
In Week Twelve’s family journal exercise, participants review past entries to identify patterns and changes in relationships. Families gather to share reflections on detoxifying their home, discussing challenges, surprises, and improvements. They then decide whether to continue practicing or advance to Level 2, celebrating their efforts throughout the process. Continue reading
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58) Third Wheel
This post recounts the amusing experience of a mischievous group of students, which leads to an unexpected reunion between Mr. E, and a former crush named Reticence. The narrator plays matchmaker between them, facilitating a nostalgic date at Dairy Queen, which sparks old feelings leading to a sweet, albeit brief, romance. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 17 – Week 11 – Self Soothing
Week Eleven focuses on emotional regulation, emphasizing self-soothing techniques to manage emotional responses. Journaling about past emotional reactions helps identify personal triggers and responses. The exercise encourages finding effective calming strategies, practicing them, and sharing with family to enhance collective emotional well-being. Engaging in role-plays illustrates successful self-soothing outcomes. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 16 – Week 10 – Give and Fast
In Week Ten of the DBT tools program, participants learn about GIVE (for relationship effectiveness) and FAST (for self-respect effectiveness). GIVE emphasizes gentleness, interest, validation, and ease in interactions, while FAST focuses on fairness, genuine apologies, adherence to values, and truthfulness. Role-playing these techniques helps in practicing a compassionate approach. Continue reading
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The author reflects on adolescence.
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