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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 27 – TEAM

The author recounts their family’s struggles during the pandemic, emphasizing the importance of treating each other as teammates. Initial cohabitation challenges led to feelings of overwhelm and disconnection. Through therapy, they learned to foster collaboration, communicate supportively, and reassess interactions to create a nurturing home environment, ultimately promoting healing and understanding. Continue reading
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83) Fire

In autumn Wyoming, preparations for winter begin amidst a backdrop of emotional turmoil. The narrator feels a growing distance from her partner, exacerbated by his struggles. A fire starts during yard work, leading to chaos and fear. The narrator grapples with feelings of resentment and entrapment as relationships become strained. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 26 – Do Overs

The post discusses the challenges of handling mistakes and poor communication within a family. It emphasizes the importance of recognizing when discussions become unproductive and introducing “do-overs” to interrupt negative spirals. By practicing empathy, critical thinking, and respectful engagement, family members can foster healthier interactions and resolve conflicts effectively. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – If Money Didn’t Matter – 9.26.25

If Money Didn’t Matter If money didn’t matter would my heart finally take wing?With the day stretched out before me, would I lift my voice to sing?Would I find the perfect words to unlock freedom and let it ring?Would that song weave us together repairing the human tapestry?If money didn’t matter, I could be anything.If Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – “Heritage” – 9.26.25

The author reflects on how the term and concept of heritage has been adulterated during their lifetime. Continue reading
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AIQ – The Ethics of Tyranny

The discussion delves into the ethical tensions faced by various professions under the Trump administration, highlighting systemic pressure that forces conflict between professional ethics and political directives. It emphasizes resistance by legal, medical, educational, and military sectors rather than alignment with administration policies, showcasing a struggle for integrity amid coercive governance. Continue reading
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82) Storytime

The narrative explores the dynamics between two storytellers, their shared past, and the complexities of their relationships, particularly involving a close friend who didn’t pursue a romantic connection due to societal expectations. It delves into themes of vulnerability, unspoken tensions, and the longing for openness, revealing deep emotional struggles and familial betrayals. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 25 – Letting Go

The post discusses the importance of letting go in relationships where toxicity and manipulation exist. It emphasizes understanding others’ responses, assessing situations, and establishing boundaries for self-protection. Recognizing that not everyone shares the same commitment to healthy behaviors is crucial for personal healing and acceptance of reality, even if it’s painful. Continue reading
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My Autism

Discovering my autism was pivotal in my journey toward self-love, providing clarity and understanding. Embracing this aspect of my identity helped me appreciate who I am, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling life. For more insights, check the linked video. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 24 – Encanto

The author discusses the importance of differentiating gentle parenting from permissive parenting, especially in light of children’s media influences. Unlike disappointing films like “Luca” and “Cruella,” “Encanto” offers valuable messages about authenticity and family support. The film is praised for its positive themes, encouraging shared viewing experiences and discussions about its meaningful content. Continue reading
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80) Ripples

The author reflects on their journey with trauma and parenting, emphasizing the challenge of sharing painful stories while trying to connect with their child. They explore the impact of unspoken trauma on relationships and highlight the importance of healing, openness, and authenticity. This process helps build trust and understanding within their family. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 23 – Self Care

In today’s demanding world, self-care is vital for well-being amidst unending pressures. Understanding personal needs is key; activities like playing music, journaling, or enjoying nature can rejuvenate. Reflect on what energizes and depletes you, and prioritize self-care while encouraging loved ones to do the same. Happy healing. Continue reading
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AIQ – WYPIPO and the Alt Reich

The content explores the diverse landscape of white extremist groups in the U.S., highlighting notable organizations like the Ku Klux Klan and the Proud Boys. It emphasizes their varying ideologies, tactics, and strategies, including institutional infiltration. Additionally, it discusses alt-right distinctions, alliances, frictions among groups, and the influence of such factions across all 50 states. Continue reading
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AIQ – Gaslit Gods

The text examines the notion that religion is gaslighting, highlighting both its potential for manipulation and its multifaceted nature. It distinguishes between spiritual abuse and healthy belief systems, while critiquing frameworks that prioritize institutional reputation over survivor truth. Ultimately, it calls for accountability and justice centered on survivors’ experiences. Continue reading
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