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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 27 – TEAM
The author recounts their family’s struggles during the pandemic, emphasizing the importance of treating each other as teammates. Initial cohabitation challenges led to feelings of overwhelm and disconnection. Through therapy, they learned to foster collaboration, communicate supportively, and reassess interactions to create a nurturing home environment, ultimately promoting healing and understanding. Continue reading
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83) Fire
In autumn Wyoming, preparations for winter begin amidst a backdrop of emotional turmoil. The narrator feels a growing distance from her partner, exacerbated by his struggles. A fire starts during yard work, leading to chaos and fear. The narrator grapples with feelings of resentment and entrapment as relationships become strained. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – “Heritage” – 9.26.25
The author reflects on how the term and concept of heritage has been adulterated during their lifetime. Continue reading
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82) Storytime
The narrative explores the dynamics between two storytellers, their shared past, and the complexities of their relationships, particularly involving a close friend who didn’t pursue a romantic connection due to societal expectations. It delves into themes of vulnerability, unspoken tensions, and the longing for openness, revealing deep emotional struggles and familial betrayals. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 25 – Letting Go
The post discusses the importance of letting go in relationships where toxicity and manipulation exist. It emphasizes understanding others’ responses, assessing situations, and establishing boundaries for self-protection. Recognizing that not everyone shares the same commitment to healthy behaviors is crucial for personal healing and acceptance of reality, even if it’s painful. Continue reading
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81) Therapy
Therapy What It Is.What It Isn’t.Is It Even What It Is?If It Isn’t, Then What Is It? I’m lucky. I have Medicaid and I so I’m able to get into therapy easier, because the institution is more sure of the payment, and I don’t have to worry about climbing the paywall that has kept me Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 24 – Encanto
The author discusses the importance of differentiating gentle parenting from permissive parenting, especially in light of children’s media influences. Unlike disappointing films like “Luca” and “Cruella,” “Encanto” offers valuable messages about authenticity and family support. The film is praised for its positive themes, encouraging shared viewing experiences and discussions about its meaningful content. Continue reading
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80) Ripples
The author reflects on their journey with trauma and parenting, emphasizing the challenge of sharing painful stories while trying to connect with their child. They explore the impact of unspoken trauma on relationships and highlight the importance of healing, openness, and authenticity. This process helps build trust and understanding within their family. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 23 – Self Care
In today’s demanding world, self-care is vital for well-being amidst unending pressures. Understanding personal needs is key; activities like playing music, journaling, or enjoying nature can rejuvenate. Reflect on what energizes and depletes you, and prioritize self-care while encouraging loved ones to do the same. Happy healing. Continue reading
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AIQ – WYPIPO and the Alt Reich
The content explores the diverse landscape of white extremist groups in the U.S., highlighting notable organizations like the Ku Klux Klan and the Proud Boys. It emphasizes their varying ideologies, tactics, and strategies, including institutional infiltration. Additionally, it discusses alt-right distinctions, alliances, frictions among groups, and the influence of such factions across all 50 states. Continue reading
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79) Reflections
The author explores the complexities of their childhood, grappling with feelings of self-loathing and the struggle for validation. They reflect on past traumas, relationships, and the internal conflict between acknowledging pain and minimizing it. Ultimately, they seek understanding of their worthiness and the necessity of self-love in their healing journey. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 22 – Being Approachable
The content emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation, particularly in the context of interpersonal relationships and parenting. It discusses how self-regulating emotions enhances approachability, accountability, and rationality, ultimately benefiting both individuals and their connections. The post encourages self-reflection on emotional responses and highlights the need for conscious emotional management for effective parenting. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – Advice – 9.22.25
The author reflects on past advice received during childhood, finding it mostly unhelpful and limiting. The turning point comes with guidance from The Old Witch, who encourages accepting and owning one’s past to reclaim one’s life. This empowers the individual, preventing others from wielding that past against them. Continue reading
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78) Ditch Please
The narrator reflects on their challenging summer working at a ranch, facing low pay and personal insecurities. Despite enjoying the experience and camaraderie, they struggle with feelings of inadequacy as mistakes mount. Ultimately, they feel undervalued and question their worth amidst financial pressures and family judgments, leading to self-doubt and introspection. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 21 – Empowerment
This post emphasizes the importance of addressing conflict through empowerment and collaboration. It highlights how defensiveness can hinder effective communication and suggests recognizing shared needs to foster teamwork. By viewing each other as allies rather than obstacles, both parties can address their needs successfully, leading to healthier interactions and reduced toxicity. Continue reading
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Autistic honesty is not merely bluntness but a coherence system rooted in a sensitivity to internal contradictions. For neurodivergent individuals, self-betrayal causes distress, and lying is often impossible due to the need for coherence. This sensitivity serves as a detection system for toxicity, highlighting a truth-regulated neuroarchitecture rather than a flaw. - Relational Field Theory – Canaries in the Mine
Neurodivergent individuals, particularly those who are autistic, possess heightened sensitivity to cognitive dissonance, akin to canaries detecting toxic conditions in coal mines. Their awareness of incoherence serves as an early-warning system, highlighting the dangers of societal contradictions. This sensitivity is not a weakness but a crucial ecological function, enabling them to navigate environments fraught with inconsistency. - My Body Belongs to Me by Protyus A. Gendher – Artist’s Showcase
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