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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 27 – TEAM
The author recounts their family’s struggles during the pandemic, emphasizing the importance of treating each other as teammates. Initial cohabitation challenges led to feelings of overwhelm and disconnection. Through therapy, they learned to foster collaboration, communicate supportively, and reassess interactions to create a nurturing home environment, ultimately promoting healing and understanding. Continue reading
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83) Fire
In autumn Wyoming, preparations for winter begin amidst a backdrop of emotional turmoil. The narrator feels a growing distance from her partner, exacerbated by his struggles. A fire starts during yard work, leading to chaos and fear. The narrator grapples with feelings of resentment and entrapment as relationships become strained. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – If Money Didn’t Matter – 9.26.25
If Money Didn’t Matter If money didn’t matter would my heart finally take wing?With the day stretched out before me, would I lift my voice to sing?Would I find the perfect words to unlock freedom and let it ring?Would that song weave us together repairing the human tapestry?If money didn’t matter, I could be anything.If Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – “Heritage” – 9.26.25
The author reflects on how the term and concept of heritage has been adulterated during their lifetime. Continue reading
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82) Storytime
The narrative explores the dynamics between two storytellers, their shared past, and the complexities of their relationships, particularly involving a close friend who didn’t pursue a romantic connection due to societal expectations. It delves into themes of vulnerability, unspoken tensions, and the longing for openness, revealing deep emotional struggles and familial betrayals. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 25 – Letting Go
The post discusses the importance of letting go in relationships where toxicity and manipulation exist. It emphasizes understanding others’ responses, assessing situations, and establishing boundaries for self-protection. Recognizing that not everyone shares the same commitment to healthy behaviors is crucial for personal healing and acceptance of reality, even if it’s painful. Continue reading
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My Autism
Discovering my autism was pivotal in my journey toward self-love, providing clarity and understanding. Embracing this aspect of my identity helped me appreciate who I am, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling life. For more insights, check the linked video. Continue reading
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81) Therapy
Therapy What It Is.What It Isn’t.Is It Even What It Is?If It Isn’t, Then What Is It? I’m lucky. I have Medicaid and I so I’m able to get into therapy easier, because the institution is more sure of the payment, and I don’t have to worry about climbing the paywall that has kept me Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 24 – Encanto
The author discusses the importance of differentiating gentle parenting from permissive parenting, especially in light of children’s media influences. Unlike disappointing films like “Luca” and “Cruella,” “Encanto” offers valuable messages about authenticity and family support. The film is praised for its positive themes, encouraging shared viewing experiences and discussions about its meaningful content. Continue reading
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80) Ripples
The author reflects on their journey with trauma and parenting, emphasizing the challenge of sharing painful stories while trying to connect with their child. They explore the impact of unspoken trauma on relationships and highlight the importance of healing, openness, and authenticity. This process helps build trust and understanding within their family. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 23 – Self Care
In today’s demanding world, self-care is vital for well-being amidst unending pressures. Understanding personal needs is key; activities like playing music, journaling, or enjoying nature can rejuvenate. Reflect on what energizes and depletes you, and prioritize self-care while encouraging loved ones to do the same. Happy healing. Continue reading
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79) Reflections
The author explores the complexities of their childhood, grappling with feelings of self-loathing and the struggle for validation. They reflect on past traumas, relationships, and the internal conflict between acknowledging pain and minimizing it. Ultimately, they seek understanding of their worthiness and the necessity of self-love in their healing journey. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 22 – Being Approachable
The content emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation, particularly in the context of interpersonal relationships and parenting. It discusses how self-regulating emotions enhances approachability, accountability, and rationality, ultimately benefiting both individuals and their connections. The post encourages self-reflection on emotional responses and highlights the need for conscious emotional management for effective parenting. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – Advice – 9.22.25
The author reflects on past advice received during childhood, finding it mostly unhelpful and limiting. The turning point comes with guidance from The Old Witch, who encourages accepting and owning one’s past to reclaim one’s life. This empowers the individual, preventing others from wielding that past against them. Continue reading
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78) Ditch Please
The narrator reflects on their challenging summer working at a ranch, facing low pay and personal insecurities. Despite enjoying the experience and camaraderie, they struggle with feelings of inadequacy as mistakes mount. Ultimately, they feel undervalued and question their worth amidst financial pressures and family judgments, leading to self-doubt and introspection. Continue reading
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