Protyus A. Gendher
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AIQ – Gaslit Gods
The text examines the notion that religion is gaslighting, highlighting both its potential for manipulation and its multifaceted nature. It distinguishes between spiritual abuse and healthy belief systems, while critiquing frameworks that prioritize institutional reputation over survivor truth. Ultimately, it calls for accountability and justice centered on survivors’ experiences. Continue reading
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79) Reflections
The author explores the complexities of their childhood, grappling with feelings of self-loathing and the struggle for validation. They reflect on past traumas, relationships, and the internal conflict between acknowledging pain and minimizing it. Ultimately, they seek understanding of their worthiness and the necessity of self-love in their healing journey. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 22 – Being Approachable
The content emphasizes the importance of emotional regulation, particularly in the context of interpersonal relationships and parenting. It discusses how self-regulating emotions enhances approachability, accountability, and rationality, ultimately benefiting both individuals and their connections. The post encourages self-reflection on emotional responses and highlights the need for conscious emotional management for effective parenting. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – Advice – 9.22.25
The author reflects on past advice received during childhood, finding it mostly unhelpful and limiting. The turning point comes with guidance from The Old Witch, who encourages accepting and owning one’s past to reclaim one’s life. This empowers the individual, preventing others from wielding that past against them. Continue reading
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78) Ditch Please
The narrator reflects on their challenging summer working at a ranch, facing low pay and personal insecurities. Despite enjoying the experience and camaraderie, they struggle with feelings of inadequacy as mistakes mount. Ultimately, they feel undervalued and question their worth amidst financial pressures and family judgments, leading to self-doubt and introspection. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 21 – Empowerment
This post emphasizes the importance of addressing conflict through empowerment and collaboration. It highlights how defensiveness can hinder effective communication and suggests recognizing shared needs to foster teamwork. By viewing each other as allies rather than obstacles, both parties can address their needs successfully, leading to healthier interactions and reduced toxicity. Continue reading
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Daily Prompt – Energy – 9.20.25
The post encourages reflection on activities that provide energy and refuel individuals, particularly during exhausting times. It emphasizes the significance of self-care, connection, and community, while prompting readers to consider their own strategies for rejuvenation and resisting fatigue. The question invites personal exploration of energizing practices. Continue reading
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77) A Willing Hand
The narrator shares experiences working during haying season for a local rancher, feeling eager yet anxious to prove their worth. They navigate challenges with tractors, bond with a mostly established crew, and yearn for acceptance. The job brings personal growth and reflection, contrasting their past family ties with newfound independence. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 20 – Setbacks
The post discusses the complexities of personal growth and dealing with emotional triggers. It emphasizes the importance of using tools and techniques to navigate challenges. The author reflects on the messy nature of progress, highlighting the need for open communication within families. Engaging with emotions and understanding triggers can lead to healthier resolutions. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 19 – The Silent Treatment
The post emphasizes the significance of disengaging during emotionally charged moments to allow individuals to process information fully. It argues that silence, often misinterpreted as rejection, is essential for self-analysis and healing. By valuing silence, one can avoid reactive responses and foster a healthier, more constructive dialogue. Continue reading
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AIQ- Birth Control and Eugenics
The Trump administration has restricted birth control access through various policies, including significant funding cuts and ideological reframing of contraception. These actions impact marginalized communities, particularly low-income women, disabled individuals, and women of color, reflecting a broader agenda of reproductive control rooted in historical eugenics practices. Continue reading
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Late Night in a Time of Fascism
Late Night in a Time of Fascism I just want everyone to have access to this little gem. Continue reading
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76) Wide Open Spaces
The passage reflects on personal experiences of living on a back road surrounded by nature and explores themes of food, connection, and language learning. The author recounts cooking memories with their mother, the challenges of taking a sign language course, and the emotional friction within family dynamics, ultimately affecting their sense of belonging. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit – Points to Ponder 18 – Ups and Downs
The author reflects on personal growth through a transformative toolkit with family. While experiencing deeper connections and positive changes in parenting, challenges arise from family resistance. Despite the pain of rejection, the author finds value in these experiences, leading to clarity and relief from misunderstandings. Healing involves both cooperation and confronting discomfort. Continue reading
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ABCs
This post emphasizes the importance of self-acceptance, bravery, character, diligence, and resilience through an alphabetical representation. Each letter highlights a virtue or concept, encouraging personal growth and meaningful engagement with the world. It conveys the journey of life, urging individuals to embrace challenges, learn from failures, and cultivate their passions. Continue reading
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