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Toxicity Toolkit 9 – The Second Month
In the second month, participants engage in weekly exercises, journaling, and reflective analysis in week 5. Week 6 focuses on self-care and boundaries, while week 7 emphasizes letting go. Finally, week 8 introduces the DBT skill DEAR MAN for improved interpersonal effectiveness. Feedback for content concerns is welcomed. Continue reading
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49) Trying on Scripts
The author reflects on their experiences with a small, imaginative cult formed during adolescence, alongside friends K and R. They explored identity through shared fictional narratives and characters, blurring lines between reality and performance. Eventually, the author distanced from the group, recognizing the dangers involved, while R remained deeply attached to the fantasy. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 8 – Week 4 – Praise
In Week Four, the focus is on positive reinforcement, particularly praise, as a tool for promoting healthy behaviors in relationships. It emphasizes the importance of specificity in feedback and cautions against public praise to avoid manipulative tendencies. The exercise encourages private recognition of positive actions using genuine communication. Continue reading
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48) The One Debate Tournament I Went To
The author describes a double standard experienced by their mother in high school, and their rebellion through sexualized behavior. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 7 – Week 3 – Untrue Narratives
Week Three focuses on recognizing and addressing untrue or incomplete narratives often used in gaslighting. Such narratives can control relationships by casting the Narrator as a hero or victim, while others become villains. Participants are encouraged to question these narratives, share truthful perspectives, and mitigate toxic behaviors to rebuild authenticity. Continue reading
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47) Like a Soda Can to the Forehead
In high school, the author struggled with social acceptance due to their obsession with facts and critical thinking, often resulting in conflicts. A notable incident involving a soda can taught them about respect and intimidation dynamics. Later, physical prowess in gym class shifted perceptions, making them resilient against bullying. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 6 – Week 2 – Family Bill of Rights
In Week Two, families are encouraged to establish a Family Bill of Rights based on their values. Creating this Bill, alongside Family Expectations, promotes a shared foundation, fostering dialogue and investment in family principles. Visual reminders of these agreements can enhance family interactions, reducing toxicity and encouraging positive behavior among members. Continue reading
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46) God Forbid
The author uses the documentary “God Forbid” to explore the manipulative dynamics of The Cult of the Ego, focusing on Giancarlo’s experiences with Rev. Jerry Falwell Jr. and the evangelical elite. It highlights how power and moral status are exploited to control young men, masking corruption while waging moral campaigns against perceived societal threats. More… Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 5 – Week 1 – Family Values Exercise
The content focuses on a family values exercise designed to foster a positive home environment by establishing shared values. Family members collaboratively identify and prioritize core values, reassessing them annually to accommodate growth. The exercise promotes inclusivity, giving everyone, including younger members, an opportunity to contribute and reflect on their needs and values. Continue reading
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45) Oh Canada
The narrative recounts a journey to Canada for a wedding, exploring family dynamics and personal connections. The protagonist grapples with their father’s mental illness history, navigates relationships with relatives they barely know, and enjoys dance and music. The trip serves as a brief respite from familial tensions, but reality resumes upon returning home. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 3 – The First Month
The first month of the Toxicity Toolkit program focuses on reducing toxic behaviors within families. Weekly exercises encourage journaling, reflection, and confronting personal toxicities. Participants must be open to feedback and willing to engage in introspection for improvement. Resistance is common but signifies the need for change towards healthier relationships. Continue reading
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44) Autism Part Two
The post discusses the overlooked history of Autism and its intersection with societal control and conformity. It contrasts traditional views of Pathological Demand Avoidance with evolutionary perspectives that consider it an antithetical response to tyranny. The author encourages viewers to engage with a TikTok discussing Autism’s relationship with authoritarianism. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 2 – Build Your Toolkit
The content serves as a comprehensive guide for utilizing The Toxicity Toolkit, detailing a structured approach to building a toolkit over three months, divided into weekly segments. It emphasizes the availability of audio resources and encourages feedback on harmful content, promoting awareness of privilege in the process. Continue reading
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43) My First Surgery
The narrator recounts their experience of having a ruptured ovarian cyst mistaken for appendicitis, leading to surgery. They reflect on feelings of neglect and misunderstanding from their mother, who doubted their pain. Post-surgery, they continued to endure monthly cyst ruptures while coping with the emotional and physical challenges of their condition. Continue reading
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Toxicity Toolkit 1 – Start Here
The Toxicity Toolkit addresses toxic behaviors that affect relationships, arising from various life experiences. It acknowledges that everyone displays toxic traits and aims to provide exercises for families to combat toxicity and cultivate healthier communication. The toolkit emphasizes recognizing toxicity, employing dialectical behavioral therapy, and fostering a positive environment for growth. Continue reading
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