Relational Field Therapy
RFT Tools for Clients
Daily Practices for Maintaining Scale and Boundaries
These are the client‑side practices that make RFT sustainable in daily life.
They’re simple, repeatable, and designed to prevent the two core dangers:
- Scale collapse — taking on what’s too big
- Misattribution — carrying what was never yours
Each tool is a micro‑intervention that keeps the wound where it belongs: in the field, not the self.
1. The Scale Check-In
A 10‑second reset that prevents collapse
Ask yourself:
- “Is this mine?”
- “Is this the field?”
- “What is the actual size of this?”
This interrupts the automatic inward collapse.
Hashtags: #ScaleCheck #StayAccurate #FieldAwareness
2. The Boundary Breath
A somatic cue that restores internal space
On the inhale:
“This is me.”
On the exhale:
“This is not mine.”
This anchors the boundary in the body.
Hashtags: #BoundaryBreath #SomaticClarity #NotMine
3. The Misattribution Filter
A quick way to detect when someone is pushing a wound onto you
Ask:
- “Whose discomfort is this?”
- “Who benefits if I blame myself?”
- “What happens if I don’t take this on?”
This reveals the transfer attempt.
Hashtags: #MisattributionFilter #EmotionalDiscernment #WoundTransfer
4. The Sensitivity Reframe
Turning overwhelm into information
When you feel “too much,” say:
“My sensitivity is detecting the field.”
This shifts the narrative from flaw to signal.
Hashtags: #SensitivityIsSignal #NeurodivergentWisdom #FieldSensor
5. The Normalcy Script Decoder
Undoing the cultural pressure to shrink
When someone says:
- “Calm down.”
- “Don’t make it weird.”
- “Just act normal.”
Translate it to:
“They’re avoiding the field’s rupture.”
This protects your identity from flattening.
Hashtags: #NormalcyScript #DoeNormaalDecoded #CulturalPressure
6. The Responsibility Reset
Stopping the reflex to carry the field
Say internally:
“I am responsible for my actions, not the system’s failures.”
This breaks the Over‑Responsible pattern.
Hashtags: #ResponsibilityReset #NotMyJob #FieldFailure
7. The Emotional Echo Test
Checking whether the emotion belongs to you
Ask:
“Does this emotion feel like mine, or like someone else’s?”
If it feels foreign, it is.
Release it.
Hashtags: #EmotionalEcho #AffectDiscernment #ReleaseWhatIsNotYours
8. The Truth Anchor
Protecting your perception from gaslighting
When someone denies what you see, say internally:
“My perception is valid even if it’s inconvenient.”
This stabilizes the Signal Bearer.
Hashtags: #TruthAnchor #PerceptionIsValid #SignalBearerStrength
9. The HAU Boundary
Refusing to carry unreturned obligations
When you feel guilt or pressure with no clear origin, ask:
“What obligation was broken here — and by whom?”
This reveals the HAU wound.
Hashtags: #HAUBoundary #RelationalDebt #UnreturnedGift
10. The Collapse Interrupt
Stopping the downward spiral before it starts
When you feel yourself disappearing, say:
“This collapse is a scale error, not a truth.”
This keeps the self intact.
Hashtags: #CollapseInterrupt #ScaleError #StayPresent
11. The Field Reassignment Statement
Returning the wound to its rightful origin
Say:
“This belongs to the field.
Not to me.”
This is the core RFT release ritual.
Hashtags: #FieldReassignment #WoundReturn #StructuralTruth
12. The Identity Re‑Rooting
Reconnecting with your original frequency
Ask:
“What was true about me before the misattribution?”
This restores the self that predates the wound.
Hashtags: #IdentityRerooting #OriginalFrequency #SelfRestoration
13. The Daily Boundary Audit
A 1‑minute evening practice
Reflect:
- What did I carry today that wasn’t mine?
- Where did I shrink?
- Where did I stay accurate?
- What can I release now?
This keeps the field from accumulating in your body.
Hashtags: #BoundaryAudit #DailyClarity #EmotionalHygiene
14. The Communal Reality Check
Preventing reenactment in relationships
Ask:
“Is this dynamic familiar because it’s mine — or because it’s the field repeating itself?”
This protects you from old roles.
Hashtags: #CommunalRealityCheck #PatternBreak #FieldReenactment
15. The Self-Return Ritual
A grounding practice for the end of the day
Place a hand on your chest and say:
“I return to myself.
I return to my scale.
I return to my truth.”
This seals the boundary.
Hashtags: #SelfReturn #BoundarySeal #DailyRFT
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