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Control

In “Control” by Protyus A. Gendher, the author critiques societal norms surrounding reproduction and the bodily autonomy of people with uteruses. The piece highlights the struggles and frustrations faced by those seeking reproductive choices, emphasizing the need for personal control over one’s body without suffering and judgment, challenging existing laws and gender binaries. Continue reading
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Community

The poem “Community” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the dual nature of community as both a source of healing and a breeding ground for social issues. It emphasizes the importance of connection, support, and shared dreams while acknowledging the challenges posed by greed and social disease. Ultimately, it calls for active participation in fostering healing… Continue reading
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Brave

The poem by Protyus A. Gendher challenges perceptions of bravery and resilience, asserting that an individual’s authenticity should not require validation or glorification of pain. It critiques the tendency to label personal struggles with concepts like “survivor,” urging others to reconsider the implications of such terms on one’s unique experience. Continue reading
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Anxiety

The poem “Anxiety” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the debilitating effects of stress and doubt in relationships. It expresses a desire for genuine connection without the burden of anxiety, emphasizing the need for love to flourish free of fear and uncertainty. Ultimately, it highlights the struggle of couples trapped in cycles of worry and misunderstanding. Continue reading
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Abstinence

Abstinence by Protyus A. Gendher Abstinence Abstinence Abstinence Abstinence I read this shit and none of it makes sense Because nobody I know is doing this I’m pretty sure most “girls” want to see a penis But in my gendered reality This lesson, this teacher, this culture would make a monster out of me For failing to be someone controlled Someone who didn’t… Continue reading
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Abortion

This piece takes a deep dive into the caveats of reproductive rights. Continue reading
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Thicker Skin

In “Thicker Skin,” Protyus A. Gendher explores the emotional struggle between vulnerability and self-protection. The speaker questions the need to toughen their heart while desiring genuine connection and self-expression. They grapple with the fear of rejection and the effects of hiding their true self, ultimately seeking safety in sharing their art and identity. Continue reading
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Drag Therapy

“Drag Therapy” by Protyus A. Gendher explores the journey of self-acceptance and empowerment through drag performance. It addresses confronting personal trauma, societal expectations, and reclaiming identity. The work emphasizes the liberation found in vulnerability, expressing emotions, and the transformative power of art in confronting and celebrating one’s true self. Continue reading
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Don’t Call Me Miss

The poem “Boi” by Protyus A. Gendher explores themes of identity, societal expectations, and self-acceptance. It expresses the struggle of fitting into predefined roles while encouraging authenticity and the recognition of one’s worth. The speaker emphasizes that individuals are valid and valuable just as they are, despite external pressures. Continue reading
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Closet Doors

Closet Doors explores concepts of safety and identity Continue reading
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Boi

The poem “Boi” by Protyus A. Gendher explores themes of identity, societal expectations, and self-acceptance. It expresses the struggle of fitting into predefined roles while encouraging authenticity and the recognition of one’s worth. The speaker emphasizes that individuals are valid and valuable just as they are, despite external pressures. Continue reading
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Before I Knew I Was Trans

Before I Knew I Was Trans by Protyus A. Gendher Before I Knew I Was Trans Before I knew I was trans I sucked at being a girl I sucked at learning all of the prescribed rules I was force-fed in this world. I sucked at keeping my knees together wearing the skirt that they… Continue reading
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Ally

Examine allyship. Continue reading
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We Have To RISE

Our waiting And Tolerating Leaves room for the Hating Continue reading
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- 18) High School
The author shares experiences from high school, highlighting a strained familial relationship, particularly with their mother, over decisions like language studies and school policies. They describe friendships formed among a rebellious group, issues with attendance, and the challenges faced in a restrictive home environment, ultimately leading to feelings of isolation and disappointment. - Survivor Literacy – Your resilience wasn’t a compliment — it was a requirement
The concept of resilience is reframed as a necessity for survival rather than a commendable trait. The narrative emphasizes that individuals who endure hardship do so not from choice, but from the demand to survive in harmful environments. Their strength reflects survival costs, not personal virtue. - 48) The One Debate Tournament I Went To
The author describes a double standard experienced by their mother in high school, and their rebellion through sexualized behavior. - 17) Mallard Duck Day
The post reflects on the author’s challenging junior high experience, highlighting key teachers who positively impacted their life. Despite struggles with social dynamics, teachers inspired confidence, fostering a love for learning. However, bullying and lack of support from administration devastated one beloved teacher, resulting in a profound sense of loss for the author. - Survivor Literacy – You didn’t misread the room. You read the danger.
The post emphasizes that survivors often accurately perceive danger before others, countering the notion of “paranoia.” It advocates for “Survivor Literacy,” which recognizes these perceptions as legitimate insights rather than anxiety. The idea is that the survivor’s ability to read the environment is a skill shaped by experience, not a flaw. - Emic and Etic – Trauma Informed Anthropology
Emic and Etic – Trauma Informed Anthropology I don’t have a cohort of academics to bounce ideas around with, so… Read more: Emic and Etic – Trauma Informed Anthropology - 47) Like a Soda Can to the Forehead
In high school, the author struggled with social acceptance due to their obsession with facts and critical thinking, often resulting in conflicts. A notable incident involving a soda can taught them about respect and intimidation dynamics. Later, physical prowess in gym class shifted perceptions, making them resilient against bullying. - 16) Junior High
The author reflects on their challenging experience in junior high, marked by a lack of family support and feelings of isolation. As their family became distant, the author faced bullying and ridicule at school. Despite moments of achievement, like performing in a musical, they struggled to find acceptance and belonging among peers. - Survivor Literacy – Your healing isn’t selfish. It’s generational work.
Healing is not selfish; it’s generational work that disrupts longstanding patterns and facilitates lineage repair. This process transforms not only the individual but also opens new possibilities for those connected to them. Ultimately, healing contributes to a better future for all. - 46) God Forbid
The author uses the documentary “God Forbid” to explore the manipulative dynamics of The Cult of the Ego, focusing on Giancarlo’s experiences with Rev. Jerry Falwell Jr. and the evangelical elite. It highlights how power and moral status are exploited to control young men, masking corruption while waging moral campaigns against perceived societal threats. More importantly, it provides a history of moral politics in this country, that has influenced all of us. - 15) Starting Over- Revisited
The post reflects on personal experiences of childhood trauma and healing, highlighting the significance of supportive relationships, like a caring teacher during difficult times, and memorable family trips. It addresses themes of grief, resilience, and the challenges of navigating societal expectations while coping with loss and navigating adolescence. - Survivor Literacy – You weren’t the problem. You were the scapegoat.
The content emphasizes that scapegoating is a mechanism used to deflect blame in pressured systems. It reassures individuals that being targeted does not indicate personal fault, but rather convenience in the situation. Survivor Literacy aims to help individuals understand this dynamic and recognize their role as mere placeholders for chaos. - System Lock‑In
Once the operating system is installed, the relational environment stops behaving like a flexible, adaptive group of individuals.It becomes a… Read more: System Lock‑In - The OS Installs: FamilyScapegoatSyndrome.exe
Once codependence is in place and the relational roles have fused, the system stops behaving like a set of individual… Read more: The OS Installs: FamilyScapegoatSyndrome.exe - Traditional Marriage as a Codependence Architecture
Here’s the part most people never see:Traditional marriage — the structure, not the individuals inside it — is built on… Read more: Traditional Marriage as a Codependence Architecture
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