Survivor Literacy

VIOLENCE-JUSTIFICATION LOOP

VIOLENCE OCCURS

• Physical, emotional, or psychological harm.

CONTEXTUALIZATION

• “He was tired.”
• “He was drunk.”
• “He was stressed.”
• “He didn’t mean it.”

SELF-BLAME REDIRECTION

• “I pushed him.”
• “I should have known better.”
• “I made him angry.”

REHABILITATION OF HIS IMAGE

• “He’s a good man.”
• “He’s trying.”
• “He feels bad.”

GRATITUDE FOR RESTRAINT

• “At least it wasn’t worse.”
• “He apologized.”
• “He doesn’t do it often.”

SYSTEM RESET

• The cycle is framed as resolved.
• The threshold for harm stretches.
• The woman’s tolerance increases.
• The man’s accountability decreases.

NEXT VIOLENCE EVENT

The loop restarts with a higher tolerance baseline.

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